We would like to move to Spain but...

Hi daisy I've never been in this situation, but for me the clue lies in the fact that you are dreading having the conversation. That shouldn't be the case or are your childcare duties taken for granted?

Surely after 10 years the conversation should be along the lines of I've got XX number of years left (if I'm lucky) to enjoy life, I've looked after the children for the past 10 years, so I'm off now to do something else. See ya!

I'm definitely in the "I've had my turn camp ..." excluding people who really need help with child care due to circumstances beyond their control of course.

I’m not in your situation, but you might be pleasantly surprised, they might look forward to holidays with you. It might be an idea though to consider what impact Brexit might have on your move. I have heard that people who had registered in Spain before our Brexit vote should be ok, but I don’t know what will happen to new incomers.