Have a ‘safe’ journey

Sorry I'm another who's been saying 'Safe journey' literally for decades. I also say 'Take care' rather than Goodbye (which is 'God be with you'). The sales assistant in a shop said 'Take care' to me as I left just now, and it made me smile.

“Chill”. Makes me fume?

Sorry. I didn’t read the OP properly. Just something I hate hearing.
I don’t mind safe journey or drive carefully etc. as they are well meant.

Teetime is right. These phrases are meant kindly and I suppose we should be grateful we have others to care.

My mother always says "Mind how you go" - putting the onus on me to drive/cycle/travel safely.

TLV gran 48... I say that too !

Love the SA "Go Well" ... that says it all !

Grannyknot of course some people are having good days it’s just at very dark times in my life these words have been said to me and I thought if only they knew. I smile and say thank you.

I think what annoys me in particular is that the training staff get leads to them saying exactly the same thing every time a customer departs and I realise they are saying it parrot fashion.

Where I do voluntary work, most people I see are not in a good place. I feel it would be almost insulting to wish them a safe journey or to enjoy the rest of their day, because I already know how hard their days or their journeys are. Too trite and unthinking.
But fine to wish a friend or family member a safe journey.

I've always supposed "Have a safe journey" was a shortened version of "I hope you have a safe journey". Anyone taking offence at that needs their head seeing to ?

I think one needs to use broad interpretations for such utterances instead of looking for something that might be wring with them.

I agree some can be trained in parrot fashion but even that is for a good purpose. I think good intention matters and unless it's obvious good intention isnt' there, then we should assume it is and be gracious.

My "go to" phrase on waving goodbye to anybody for a long trip is "have a peaceful journey". I think that covers any eventuality.

I have learned to not say "drive safely" as my sons go out the door as I just get withering looks to imply they are hardly likely to drive dangerously !

Baggs. I did say that I knew it was meant in kindness if you read my posting. Anyway I’m off to get my head seen to....wish me a safe journey!

I'm with Baggs here. Surely, common courtesy demands we take our leave of others politely and accept the expressions they use when saying good -bye to us in the spirit they were meant?

Admittedly, I nearly bit the head off a shop assistant who wished me a good day on the day my sister was told she had cancer, but fortunately I remembered in time that the shop girl could not possible know that and was trying to be polite.

I always wish my grandkids and kids ‘safe journey’ when they are going anywhere it’s exactly as it’s said I do wish them a safe journey why would I say anything different
If someone says take care or safe journey to me I don’t start catastropizing about the journey I just mentally thank them for caring
I like your ‘forward lash’ Anyone7

kaybomba, your saying you knew it was meant in kindness and then moaning about it was what annoyed me.

My Husband always says"drive carefully", which I always do. I always say "have a safe journey" when anyone is travelling far, doesnt matter what transport they are using

We know someone who always starts her day on Facebook with these words" Hello all you sunbeams out there today the weather will deliver ----" I often feel there are people who dont feel like sunbeams. This gets very boring every day, fortunately I dont follow her but other friends do.

I hate it when waiters/waitresses say ‘no problem’ after they’ve asked me what I’d like and I’ve told them. Why would there be a problem?? We’re in a coffee shop and I’ve asked for a coffee. I know it’s a trivial thing but it just feels so meaningless. It would be fine if I’d made some arcane request which they could nevertheless meet. (I realise I’m just being grumpy by the way, and in case you hadn’t guessed, I’m also a pedant when it comes to punctuation ....)

Thank you Missdeke that’s exactly what I was trying to say but obviously didn’t word it very well.

When DS or DD are driving somewhere I say ‘Give me a couple of rings or a text when you get there’ One 42 the other 37 both married and living away from home!

NannalynI could have written your post! I so agree with you about “No problem”! My other pet hate when I enter a shop or a business is “Are you ok?” instead of “May I help you?”!!

I feel cross when,asked for my name the assistant will say "fantastic". Why is it fantastic that I know my own name!!
Then they will ask do you know your post code, yes I do , fantastic!

Aw, these are all just things people say to fill a silence, some automatic, most kindly meant. I couldn't be irritated by any of them, particularly when uttered by a bright, enthusiastic young thing trying to show a bit of care towards an old biddy.

When my mum died in 2012 I hated it if anyone casually said "how are you?" in a way that was just a thing they said and didn't want to know the answer. If it was someone who really wanted to know how I was that was ok. But a few years later I was working on reception in a mental health facility and somebody came in who had recently been admitted to hospital. without thinking I asked "how are you?" - just being polite really and they told me off and said "you are just asking to be polite. you don't really, really want to know how I feel do you?" and I had to apologise and I realised that I had done/said the thing to someone that had really upset me a few years before. Sometimes people just say things without thinking or meaning any upset.

When I'd been visiting family up north my sil always asked me to let her know we'd got home safely. I was really touched as my own family never bothered. I suppose they just assumed we would get home alright. It felt like my sil really cared.

Sometimes people just say things without thinking or meaning any upset.

Yes, they do, because it is natural and greetings are awkward. You can't start imposing rules about what people say when they are speaking "without meaning any upset".

"How are you?" doesn't mean the person asking wants a detailed answer. It's just another way of saying Good Morning or Hello. It's an opening. The answer can be whatever the person who is asked wants to say, such as, in the case of an ill person: "I'm here to see SoandSo."

Other people don't know what you're feeling unless you tell them so, naturally, they treat you as if you are not suffering grief or illness. What the hell is wrong with just saying something "to be polite"? The word 'polite' is the important bit.

Is the world really as full of grumps and fault finders as Gransnet threads sometimes makes it seem?