a) it was not me who said this
b) this is NOT our personal experience at all
c) even in places where dogs are allowed, we are always very careful, clean paws, etc, never allow on seats or feed at table- and always ask if anyone comes and sits by us or if we sit somewhere- if that is ok, and move if we can see person/s is not happy. We always sit in discreet corner and bring a clean blanket or small dogbed- and dog will settle and not make a single move or noise.
I agree you should have the choice, and have said it several times on this thread.
We always left our other dogs at home, with a friend or in kennels. Our current dog was adopted after a long running saga- aged 13. She cannot be left at home when we go on hols nor can she go in kennels or to friends- as she has suffered trauma and would cry or howl like a woolf. We can leave her at home for a couple of hours, and she will not disturb anyone if she howls... In our flat in the UK, we could NOT as it would create problems for neighbours. On a few occasions we went to friends who don't like or want dogs, or in restaurants where they are not allowed, we will leave her in the car, and will take it in turn to take her out a couple of times.
I agree you should have the choice.