Holidaying with a friend

Why not just explain it to your friend she may be feeling the same as you about sharing a bedroom. If it becomes too expensive then you can decide to change where you want to go or forget it altogether.

What’s the problem with a two bedroom flat being advertised as additional beds? I wouldn’t fancy the double bed or twin beds option, nor would I want to sleep in the living room. Your friend probably feels the same.

Why don't you look on line together and see what you both come up with?

I couldn’t share a bedroom even with a good friend I have had for years and she feels the same. Are there places with one bedroom and a bed settee in the living room? Not perfect but might be a compromise.

Booking.com or Airbnb give you a chance to enter the number of bedrooms you require.

I was thinking Airbnb as well.

Tell your friend, I'm sure she won't be offended.
It's a shame to miss out on an enjoyable time.

She may have worries herself about being in such close proximity at night.

I went away with work and had to share a small bedroom with another carer, and she broke down in tears just before we went because she snored, and was worried about coughing and "dribbling" in the bed.

She had got herself into a real state, worrying about it, but once it was put in the open she felt much better.

Thanks everyone, I'll try AirBnB as booking.com seems to show only the studio options. I think we are both happy to share just the places I've seen are mostly tiny studios with one room, like a bedsit with bathroom. Further out the village is maybe better. I don't think sleeping in the living room is a bad idea, but av seen no separate bedrooms at all! Often find accommodation is aimed at couples sharing rather than friends.... will try finding an apartment option :-) thanks xx

When I went on holidays with female friends we always had our own separate rooms. I wouldn’t have gone otherwise. When I was on tour with the choir and orchestra, though, we had to share rooms - the management was paying and we weren’t given the option of single rooms. I hated it, but I survived.

There should be lots of AirBNB options with two bedrooms.

Where is it you are planning to go?

When I holiday with friends[not often abroad], it is a joint exercise going through all the options.
It tales time and compromise, but then everyone has their input.

I holiday with a friend every year, we have shared a double bed, we only ever book one room but we have known each other for decades so we are comfortable in each others company. Talk to your friend and then you can both agree a way forward. Don't miss out on a great holiday for want of a conversation.

It's an island in Greece where accommodation is aimed at walkers and climber, and in the area where is most accessible to walks, it seems to be mostly studio set ups with a small kitchenette, en suite and double bed with single sofa-bed, so no privacy. If we go further away, there are more options. I think this is what we should do. We'll need to get transport, but that's ok

Thanks all for your advice, I used to be able to ask my mum for guidance but she passed away 18 months ago. Gransnet to the rescue. Xx

I am doing the Tour de Mount Blanc in September with a friend . We are going with a holiday company and will be sharing a room. She is a good friend and I have no concerns. After walking all day we will be too tired to care!

When booking to go away with friends I always check and scrutinise the photographs because a lot of twin rooms can just be for children with small beds close together or even bunk beds.

If I am staying with a few friends and some of the beds/rooms/sofas are better than others we rotate so eveyone gets a good bed for at least one night!

That's a good idea keepingquiet to switch sleeping arrangements part way through, then everyone gets the comfiest bed for a while. Seems fair. Mumofmadboys, your holiday sounds like a similar plan. I expect we'll be too exhausted to worry much. Thanks all xx

Could you do a trial run near home in a twin bedded room or similar before you book? It might not be as bad as you fear or perhaps horrendous but it would give you a better idea.

Four of us are planning a holiday together. Two are sharing a twin room . The 3rd person and I will be paying £40 extra to have a single room each.. Due to asthma, I tend to cough at night and I certainly don’t want to disturb anyone.

But we re all different some people have no cares about sharing a bed, others do I wouldn’t want to share a bed with a friend however close we were I think I would wriggle around probably need the loo and would be uncomfortable that if I turned over in my sleep I d fling an arm over her 🤣🤣
I d pay extra for a single room or happily sleep on the pull out couch
But then I ve never holidayed with a friend

I wouldn't want to share a room, let alone a bed as I am a very early riser! If you can manage it why not book a double for single use, but it is expensive, and obviously your friend would have to do the same.
A friend once pestered me to share in France. She wakes at lunch time, I am up at 5 am. I was honest and told her it was not going to happen. I am old enough to speak my mind these days!

Not so shy Shysal these days eh
Like you I m always awake by 5 or before I ve shared with my adult daughter and she loves a lie in, its so difficult I m trying not to get up to the loo, rustle a book page, cough or barely breathe
I d never want to share with a friend however dear they are to me but it’s never come up anyway most of my friends are married and do couple things

I'm in Lanzarote at the moment for a week with three friends. This is the seventh year we've holidayed together, we missed one during covid.

We have a two bedroom apartment: one twin room with two single beds, one room with a king-size bed with two single duvets.
(Sometimes the large bed is two singles fastened together which can be separated, but not this time).
The two early birds share one room and the two night owls share the other.

We've all known each other for 30+ years and probably get on better than family 🙂
We spend our days walking, talking, eating out, talking, bit of shopping, more talking!

We've already booked our accommodation and flights for Tenerife next year ☀️

This sounds like us- though we never go abroad. Finding good and reasonably priced accommodation for three adults is difficult here though.

With some work we have always managed to avoid sharing a bed and sometimes even have our own rooms.

We get on very well too, but last time had a fall out over snoring- the fall out has been serious and we may never go away as a threesome again. Very sad.