I have travelled in many different ways, and so have camped in tents, sailed up to scotland , b@bs etc . I mostly like to look for b@b's in farmhouse, so in the country but reasonably near to visit N T,s etc.My problem now is as a widow, the cost of staying anywhere is usually prohibitive as most places that advertise price it for 2 people staying together , whether as a couple or 2 singles. With my back problems I am usually awake well before anyone else, but can walk very quietly , so can creep out and go elsewhere usually .
So , I am a trouble shooter and whilst it can be annoying at times, things like this are something that I tend to think of all the possible problems that could arise. So firstly, you have to think on your own what matters and what doesnt to you. If not sharing a room is very important, you may find that you cannot go to some places as they will be too expensive to have a room on your own. If you care more about visiting the place then I suggest that you have a talk with your friend, so you could have options. 1. pay more and get single rooms. 2. not go to that area but find a cheaper place where you can have your holiday and single rooms and still have the actual holiay. 3. Share a room, but you could agree in what way you will share, for example, you might agree that you would prefer to change for the night in the bathroom and that you would sort of mentally be on your own in the bedroom. By which I mean you agree that apart from saying goodnight or do you want the light left on, you do your own thing as if you were on your own. I am an inveterate reader and always read in bed before I put the light out, so I would have my nose in my book and not be concerned with what you might be doing. Or you could put a dividing curtain or something like a clotheshorse with a sheet draped over it to separate you both. I think as someone else mentioned that going away for 2 nights somewhere here will be a good trial run to see if you could tolerate it on a longer journey. I say 2 nights because the first night is going to be strange in anycase so a couple of nights would tell you more about it. IN actual fact speaking about this will allow you to at least hear what each other thinks of sharing and how they see you travelling on your holiday.
Having camped in tents, and sailed where you are all in bunks and very close together , I feel able to cope with mot things. My way up til now has often been to go to hostels. I have been in plays and operas etc and am used to seeing skin and it doesnt bother me, so quite often I will just stay in a hostel dormitory. As I say, I am usually awake early and am up and off before anyone is awake. That way also I am not waiting for literally hours to get some breakfast. I did suggest to National trust that we could have a list for those that wish to be on it, where you could agree to share fuel costs to go and visit properties a long way away. I have driven for so many years and it is not a problem for me. My idea, which was very green too, was that if 2 other people would like to go to say Northern Scotland or cornwall we could travel together in my car, and they would share the fuel costs. That way we could make our own arrangments about where we stayed , but I would be happy to pick them up door to door and we use one car for 3 people , but N T werent interested which is a shame. For this country again I used to use the farmhouse b@b as I much prefer to be out in the country. Tend to avoid pubs simply because they can be noisy late at night. So , I think it really comes down to you deciding what you feel is important and what is not, and if you feel ok about sharing suggest it to your friend. I have sharede a room with someone but always with 2 single beds not in a double. Let us know what you decide and good luck
