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Girlie night in

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Pigma Tue 23-May-23 12:14:19

Hi, hoping you can help. I am shortly having a girlie night in with my new 16 year old son’s partner’s daughter while they have a couple’s night out. Bit of a bonding exercise really and we are both looking forward to it. I’m planning nibbles, mocktails, face packs and manicures etc and would welcome suggestions for a suitable chick flick that we could watch together. I’m maybe a bit old fashioned in my ideas of what she might enjoy. Having only ever had sons and grandsons I’m not sure on girls’ stuff. Hope you can help, thanks in advance.

Grandmabatty Tue 23-May-23 15:20:47

She's 16, not 6. I would leave the choice up to her and let her get on with it. She may not want to watch something with you or be unhappy at needing a 'babysitter' at 16. I know I would have been.

Pigma Tue 23-May-23 15:32:39

Thank you for your reply. Sorry f I gave the impression that I was babysitting as I’m not, obviously. Just there will be just her and me left in the house and we haven’t as yet spent much time together so I thought a fun girly evening would be a nice way to get to know each other a bit more. When I asked her if she would lie to watch a film she said she would but didn’t know what, hence me asking here. But thank you for your comments.

Grandmabatty Tue 23-May-23 15:41:16

Ok. Teenagers aren't known for wanting family time so don't be offended if she drifts away! It depends what she likes. I would have loathed a girly film at that age but really liked sci-fi and horror

Norah Tue 23-May-23 15:41:39

Mine love any of "Bridget Jones" and "Mamma Mia".

Christmas they love "Love Actually".

They also like all things "Star Wars" and "Harry Potter".

Hithere Tue 23-May-23 15:45:53

Let her call the shots

Fully agree with grandmabatty

You say you are not babysitting buy- where this bonding experience come from?
This does look like a lot of babysitting with a twist

crazyH Tue 23-May-23 15:49:14

Pigma when my 16 year old granddaughter (she’s 18 now) stayed with me, we’d have an initial 1/2 hour chat to catch up with news and then she’ll scurry off to her with her phone and only come down, at mealtimes, when we have a little chat again. At that age, I don’t think 🤔 spending time with Nan is a priority . Having said that, I can see you’re excited and I’m sure she will enjoy sharing the ‘pamper’ time with you - enjoy your time together !

Pigma Tue 23-May-23 16:17:07

Thanks everyone, much appreciated. She actually came up with the girls night in idea herself so I am pretty much going along with her but was very touched she wanted to spend some time with me. Some great suggestions, Norah, thank you. It was actually film suggestions I was looking for but appreciate you all taking the time to comment. Many thanks.

Theexwife Tue 23-May-23 16:31:06

I would wait until she is with you and choose together, she may be into Marvel, horror, Musicals or any other genres.

If she wants you to choose then maybe something from when you were her age would be interesting to her.

Hithere Tue 23-May-23 16:38:19

Nice! You will have a blast

Grannynannywanny Tue 23-May-23 17:00:10

I’m sure you’ll have a lovely time Pigma. How nice that it’s at her suggestion . My 16 year old granddaughter has just spent the weekend with me. She often stays overnight with her 13 yr old brother but sometimes suggests a girls only night. Sounds like you’re well set up with snacks and drinks etc. Maybe you can just choose a movie together on the night. I hope you both enjoy it and that it’s the start of a lovely relationship.

Pigma Tue 23-May-23 17:40:12

Thanks everyone. I’ll see what she fancies on the night but will have some of your suggestions up my sleeve in case she can’t decide!

purplehead Thu 25-May-23 12:10:19

My granddaughters liked Angus Thongs and Perfect Snogging or Pretty in Pink

Gundy Thu 25-May-23 12:20:36

So sorry for the put downs by some commenters re time spent with G’ma, since the 16 yr old suggested it herself - It is HER party with friends.

You just never know how much they might enjoy G’ma’s suggestions till they try it. When you least expect it you may just have a connecting, memorable, “throw back” fun experience.

Too bad for people to come crashing out of the gate accusing G’ma of babysitting and saying 16 will pay no mind - they came across as “crabby, empty grandmothers” wishing for a chance to have that for themselves.
Sweet 16!
USA Gundy

Pigma Thu 25-May-23 12:55:13

Thank you for the suggestions, putplehead, I’ll add them to the list. Don’t worry, Gundy, I only took from the comments the info I had asked for but thank you for your kind words.

Lindyloud Thu 25-May-23 14:05:59

Well I still have girls nights in with my dd & she’s 32 I’m 70. When we used to visit my dad (90 odd) we both slept together on the longe floor & had ‘midnight snacks’ with g&t! However it’s me now experimenting with her expensive cosmetics!!!
Go for it and enjoy them for as long as you can!

Norah Thu 25-May-23 14:13:18

Lindyloud

Well I still have girls nights in with my dd & she’s 32 I’m 70. When we used to visit my dad (90 odd) we both slept together on the longe floor & had ‘midnight snacks’ with g&t! However it’s me now experimenting with her expensive cosmetics!!!
Go for it and enjoy them for as long as you can!

Same.

Our 4 girls (about 60 to 40 in age) are round often. This month almost non-stop. Every afternoon Pimm's tastings- must make it better, daily. grin

Wyllow3 Thu 25-May-23 15:02:05

I was going to suggest that she might be uncertain what you will like (or think us oldies can't tolerate violence/sex or be embarrassed at same) and deal with this head on by asking what sort of films she likes. For all you know she'd love a retro classic like Hitchcock's Rear Window or some Like it Hot.
If you can stream Netflix there is a series called Emily in Paris (I'd google it) which I suspect would go down well. Since each episode is around 40 mins then you can stop there and she can follow on at home if she likes it.

She maybe into children's classics like the original Railway Children (I never stopped loving it)

OTOH some teenagers can't concentrate on a whole long film as they are used to watching bits and texting in-between.

Tbh, that's how and evening with my family often goes.

If you have a smart TV with access to buying or renting newly out films then thats an option - browse together.

Again, if you have a smart TV then you can play the U tube game. You take turns choosing a song. You'll get an education into current music and in return can choose some all time classics. Chances to chat around choices.

MountainAsh Thu 25-May-23 15:12:38

Bridesmaids is a popular girly film. I never tire of watching it.
A great comedy. IMHO

Wyllow3 Thu 25-May-23 15:13:11

(If she's into girl power then its hard to beat Blondie as a choice in oldie songs for example, Heart of glass"
www.youtube.com/watch?v=WGU_4-5RaxU

sure there are many others- early female rock singers) but its a real hoot looking say at the Beverley sisters, ""It's Illegal, It's Immoral Or It Makes You Fat"
www.youtube.com/watch?v=JuDo2DrLPYA

knspol Thu 25-May-23 15:23:09

Best to let her choose the film I think, let her know you have no idea what young women like to watch these days but you're more than happy to go along with any choice of hers - maybe even add something to the effect that you're quite broad minded where such things are concerned.

Gundy Thu 25-May-23 15:26:00

MountainAsh - Bridesmsids is a great suggestion!! It’s hilarious. And for 16 yr olds not too kiddy and enough edgy, grownup… they’ll get it. (Teens these days already know stuff. We came from a more sheltered age) Plenty of laughs 😂
Go for it!

4allweknow Thu 25-May-23 15:54:37

Let the girl trawl through the listings. If you have seen something she stops at just comment whether you enjoyed it, she may like your input for a guide. Enjoy your pamper session!

hilz Thu 25-May-23 15:59:10

Difficult as we don't know how similar or not you are but it does sound like fun night. Maybe something like Hairspray or similar. Something to have a giggle at or a bit of a sing song to. May be 13 going on 30. Dont know any more recent ones. This is the start of your relationship with her and I think its a lovely way to chill and get to know each other better. Time goes so fast that she will be on her own pathway in life and if you get this right now you will always be a part of that . Good luck and enjoy yourselves.

BlueBelle Thu 25-May-23 16:03:00

Oh let her choose what she wants to do she might want a face mask beauty pamper evening or if its to watch something make sure you get the popcorn in
Your original post did muddle me it sounded like you had a 16 year old son I am shortly having a girlie night in with my new 16 year old son’s partner’s daughter 😃