My Mom, born in 1921, was from a very large family. In fact, there were 16 children born and about 12 survived. The age span was vast. From about 1901 to 1923. My mom, at the age of 7, being sickly, was sent to live in a Catholic home for children in Spennymoor, St. Mary’s Home for Girls. She lived there until age 16 when she was released and sent to work in a Sanatarium near London. Because she had previously had TB as a child, she did not want to stay there and decided to leave to become a domestic. At age 16, she went to work for Agatha Christie’s sister as a kitchen worker. The Home had trained the girls in homemaking, sewing and much more, enabling them to obtain employment as a domestic. She spoke of the parties and the clothes. She later moved to another position as a housekeeper for a surgeon in London. She was about 21 at the time. It was during the war. She met my Dad at a military dance. He was an American soldier. She also volunteered as a British war bride in the American Corps, doing her service for the war effort. As a child, she experienced a difficult life in the Home, which she referred to as a convent. It was not. It was actually a home for children that had been abandoned, came from poor families or those that the County determined were better off living there than in their family homes. She spoke fondly of the Home but after she passed, I contacted some of the children and a resident that was there at the same time as my mom. It seemed that they had horror stories about being abused by the Catholic nuns, were referred to as numbers, were fed spoiled food and some of the girls were beaten. From what I learned later, the children were, on occasion, given dolls to hold when photos were being taken and then the dolls were taken back and put away. My mom said that on occasion they were allowed to go into the town of Spennymoor to the local candy store. I do remember we went to the town to visit the school and the church and the cemetery. It was a very sad memory for my mom. She saw some of the gravesites of the nuns she knew while living there. It seems that her father, an Italian immigrant, tried having her released on a few occasions but was unsuccessful due the the large number of children living in their home and my mom’s medical situation. I was able to obtain many of the documents from St. Cuthbert’s and my mom had also saved lots of memorabilia from her time there. My Mom rarely spoke of her time there but as she got older she got upset thinking about it. After she passed away, I arranged to return on her birthday and met one of the woman and her daughter that knew my mom from the time they were there. This woman had had extremely bad experiences there as had some other women I contacted later on. My Mom married my Dad and came to the United States in 1946. I remember her joining a club of British war brides. Not everyone was happy with their situation and many wanted to return home to their UK families. I believe that because my Mom was not raised by her family, she was fine staying in the States. She had a large family still in the UK and she stayed in contact with her younger sisters and was able to visit and reconnect with her older sisters. She never saw her parents again after leaving the UK. Later on, I know that the home had changed to a boys home and I did read so many bad things about how these boys were abused by the priests that were in charge. There is a Facebook page that addresses their stories. They are sad and also horrific. Some of the boys committed suicide as a result of their personal experiences. I did see a film that was made addressing this Home and how a mother who had live in this Home had a son who was handicapped. She murdered her child rather than send him away to a home as she did not want him to experience abuse as she had. She was tried for murder and ultimately found innocent of her crime. It is a short movie and can be found on the internet or Facebook. So, hearing about the above BBC show awakened memories of my Mom
. As a result of her stories and her experiences during the war, including her family neighborhood being hit with bombs and the sirens and her stories of taking my infant sister to the subway bomb shelters until the all clear siren went off, I do hope to be able to see the BBC show from the States and send a little prayer to all of the victims of the war.