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Jenrev Fri 24-Feb-23 22:31:11

I am so heartbroken. It's been 3 years since I last saw my 2 grandchildren. They were 18 months old and 4 years old then, and we adored each other. We were so close.
My daughter, her husband and my husband and I were all close to each other. But, my daughter did not like our views on certain political issues and that is where it all started to go wrong. They refused to let the children see or speak to us again.
My husband and I have tried and tried....virtually begged them to at least let us have a bedroom call or phone call with the children. But they refuse every single time. We have suggested that we agree to disagree and move on as a loving family, but no, this is also not acceptable to them. I miss them so much that my heart literally aches, I cry myself to sleep and kiss a photo of the children every night. I have even had suicidal thoughts occasionally, telling myself that at least then I won't be in this pain and sadness any more. We continue to send Christmas and birthday gifts to the grandchildren and Easter gifts etc. But it's not the same. We have not seen them play with and enjoy the gifts. The only photo's we get are the occasional ones that my mother in law sneaks to us.
To make matters worse, my daughter is expecting our 3rd grandchild next Mon and I know we will never get to see or hold the baby, never get to see our beautiful grandchildren grow up. My heart is breaking as I write this, the tears blurring my vision.
The fact that there are no rights for us grandparents and knowing I can do absolutely nothing is tearing me apart and my husband too. We are lost and cannot understand how our once caring and thought daughter can now be so cruel and hurtful. It is all so unecessary, and we gave told her this.
Sorry, I just need to get it all off my chest and talk to you all about it. I am hurting desperately.
Thank you for taking time to read this.

MadeInYorkshire Sat 01-Jul-23 12:07:18

welbeck

are you also an anti-vaxxer, OP ?

Does it matter if she is?

I am now anti Covid vaccines, but wouldn't try to alter someone's view other than by asking them to do some research on it.

I took the first vaccines, then smelled a rat when the Govt were deliberately inflating the death stats - why, what were they gaining by that? I've had no more ....

The we get this

www.theguardian.com/society/2023/jun/22/health-bosses-warn-of-heart-disease-emergency-in-england?utm_term=6493c7441f4effe5c9ed25392b4382fa&utm_campaign=GuardianTodayUK&utm_source=esp&utm_medium=Email&CMP=GTUK_email

Why isn't anyone looking for other reasons? Because they choose not to! Young fit men and children are dropping like flies. It could be the vaccines, so why aren't they halted until we know - because they choose not to.

Hancock's WhatsApp message to me says it all ....

"We frighten the pants of (sic) everyone with the new strain
But the complication with that Brexit is taking the top line"

"Yep that's what will get proper bahaviour (sic) change"

"When do we deploy the new variant"

In order to DEPLOY anything you have to have it in your possession, by definition (bring into effective action) - to me that sounds dodgy?

The new SKYCovion vaccine that we have approved and probably have bought God know how many of, actually says in it's 'blurb' - "Efficacy was not evaluated as part of the clinical trial programme". So why are we buying it? Pfizer has had it's clinical trial information locked away for 75 years. Why would it need to do that? Astra Zeneca was taken off the market.

Have a read ...

www.gov.uk/government/publications/regulatory-approval-of-covid-19-vaccine-skycovion

Chelle60 Sat 06-Jan-24 20:32:19

Hello new here...I had to go to court etc almost 5yrs for access to my grandchild who is now 7yrs....at the time of separation we lived near each other...mum was very against me having contact but I've been granted a child arrangement order and we both stick to.it or vary it sometimes which is amicable.
By time of getting the order mum moved away hour each way for me to now visit which I do but getting older 60 on own I'm concerned if I can't get there she will not and never has brought him to me...i drive she doesn't.. plus half my age.
I get no photos school etc...or facetious...she won't allow not even a phone call nor their address to send correspondence...

Sallywally1 Mon 23-Sept-24 08:09:16

Nothing to offer but a hand hold. Our daughter cut us off and we cannot see our grandson, nor his brother. We did send presents but I got a nasty message from her son saying they just throw them away or ‘re gift’. It is heartbreaking I know. Luckily I see my son’s children, who I adore. I’m trying to move on but it is so hard. I hope they will contact me when they are old enough to decide for themselves,

Sallywally1 Mon 23-Sept-24 08:10:00

Should read message from her husband, not son!

eazybee Mon 23-Sept-24 10:32:16

Thread started in February 23, some additions in January 24.
Why resurrect?

Luckygirl3 Mon 23-Sept-24 10:59:02

Difficult.

I guess if I held, for instance, far right or racist views my children would be rightly concerned at my influence on the GC. They would wish to keep them away if they felt they could not trust me to keep my lips zipped.