New job is really grinding me down

sorry im a bit late on this one but i have had a similar experience.Could you go part time in your job and start a business or get another job? I wouldn't pack your job in before you have another one lined up,i did it, big mistake, i did it because i thought packing the job in would make me clearer,it created a new set of problems.I remember physical workers saying that when they hit late 50's work became harder,some do work into a grand old age ,but most don't.
Im nearly 67 and eat well ,exercise etc but i get soooo tired after manual work. I'm a big fan nowadays of kindness towards myself,took me 60 odd years to get to that one!
good luck with your decision

i felt just like you ..my job was slowly but surely grinding me down , and there was changes to come ..one day my boss asked me to go into his office , told me i had 2 options ..1/ Longer hours working from 8am till 7pm every night or 2/ shorter part time hours , less days but still working from 8am till 7 pm !! i was furious , i never slept all night , worrying ..i had been there 24 years ..and my mental state was in a bad depressive area ..well i went in the following morning and handed my notice in ..just like that ..and the weight on my shoulders lifted ..i was free !! and its the best move i ever made at 59 years of age ...i have no mortgage or debts to pay , my children have all left home ,and i took out all of my works pension lump sum ..i get a monthly payment ..right i am on far less money ..but i am at peace now , no stress , no worry ,and people have said how much better and healthier i am looking ..life is too short to stress every day about a damn job .

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There was so much more stress involved in running a business rather than working for someone else

This is true. You are entirely responsible for getting in work and earning an income. However there are so many compensations. Looking back Im sorry for all the years when I wasted my abilities working for someone else and taking instructions from dumb bosses.

I never felt the sense of achievement working for an employer that I do in running my own show.

I take three months a year off - usually April, August and late December/early January.

What employer would allow you 3 months holiday?

Goodness! I've been watching out for this as there have been so many lately. Today I forgot! Thanks MS.

Kim19

Another vote for Calendargirl. I wouldn't leave without another job to have a stab at particularly as I hear there are many jobs on the market at the moment.

I doubt if the OP is reading. Look at the date

Another vote for Calendargirl. I wouldn't leave without another job to have a stab at particularly as I hear there are many jobs on the market at the moment.

I agree that it’s much better to search for a new job and continue in the job you have until that time. As others have said it’s easier to get another job if you are in work. I worked at the job centre years ag but it was always said if you were unemployed after 13 weeks it would be much harder to find work.

This doesn’t stop you from exploring the idea of self employment. Have a look at all the online sites that offer tradespeople. You can get an idea of the going rate for the job and see how much competition is out there. Research is key to running a successful business. Have been both employed and self employed the difference is enormous. There was so much more stress involved in running a business rather than working for someone else. See if your bank has a small business adviser, if you are keen. They may be able to give you some pointers.

Anyway, all the best whatever you decide.

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My first full time job (age 16) was in the civil service sitting in an office adding up figures all day. I hated it and wanted a job with more variety. One day I got chatting to the librarian in my local library and she told me that as well as being a library assistant you could take professional examinations and progress.

I felt very nervous about going to the branch manager and explaining to her that I was thinking of resigning. I had to ask her if she would be willing to be a referee. However she was very supportive when I told her my reasons. She gave me some useful advice about what to say when I went for my library interview, which was never to say anything bad about your current employer. However to emphasize the plus points of the job you were applying for, and how you feel you could use your skills more fully and make a contribution.

She also reminded me that sometimes people do find themselves in a job they are not suited for when they first begin their career. The same could also be said when its many years since you worked outside the home.

I'm tempted to say stay on until you find another job as, you never know, the situation may improve and you find the job is not as bad as you first thought. On the other hand Perdido has a good point - perhaps you could start up on your own.

could you reduce your hours.
while trying to look for something more suitable.
very difficult to get a job over 50, if unemployed, esp if left of own accord, almost impossible.
why not challenge other workers' offensive attitudes.
might do them some good. and you.

I'd say leave - it's horrible having to go to a job you don't enjoy. At your age, you're still in with a very good chance of getting something else. I'm 62 and having to look for work. I've only got 4 years to retirement but I'm finding that my job applications/interviews aren't getting me far, and I suspect it's to do with my age.

If you want to be employed, look for another job - believe me , it is harder when you are over 50 but not impossible or perhaps start up your own business doing something that you enjoy!

You already know you want an outdoor job. If you know that is your priority for employment you are well on your way to being able to find what you really want.

You are much closer to your decision than someone who does not know what they want to do.

I agree with the previous post from Elderly Person. It's easier to get another job if you already have one.

I thought estate maintainence would include looking after the campus grounds but you say your work is indoors.

What is it that you would like to do outside and it there an opportunity to start your own business?

Recently, I joined the local community website NextDoor. It's a constant stream of posts from people looking for someone to help them maintain their homes whether it's gardening, hard landscaping, fencing work, driveway maintenance or replacement, external painting etc etc.

You could set your own hours, chose your customers and not have unpleasant colleagues to deal with every day.

I am in the "life's too short" school, especially if its affecting your mental and emotional health and doubly especially if the job you hate is so diametrically opposed to the job you'd like. I won't say oh just leave, only you can make that decision, but I'd definitely be working through your options to see how reasonable "just leave" would be. I think so far as the short length of employment thing, its quite a reasonable answer to say that you went into it to oblige a friend and its not what you were seeking or would choose as its so unlike what you are comfortable with. Are your previous lengths of employment longer and more stable?

Dear Peasblossom Potential employers don't take kindly to someone who just left a previous employment - maybe you would do it to them - maybe the person resigned just before they would have been sacked for something serious.

Whatever the reason, even redundancy (did they clear out the dead wood?), there is suspicion - easiest not to take the risk, plenty of other candidates.

Someone told me that 90% of getting a job is already having a job. The candidate is willing to give up (what looks like) a good job for advancement, for more money. The employers understand that. If you have just walked out on a job from AN EMPLOYER then that raises red flags as to why, best not to take the risk. If something goes wrong, well the person who made the appointment could be seen to have been on awareness of potential problems and might be held responsible for it.

So sticking it out probably worked out.

Life is not like a physics experiment. You can't go back and try the same experiment again with different choices. You get one go. If you had walked out, you might never have been able to get another job.

why ever not whoever

Why would it autocorrect that?

Looking back the times I regret are the times I “stuck it out” in situations that made me unhappy. Now I think, whoever didn’t I just leave.

Two of those were helping out a friend. I’m not sure that ever works. And your colleagues probably don’t want a friend of the boss on the team?

I just told my new employer I want to quit today. I left my old ft job in march because I hated it, I was wfh but I had nothing to do a lot of the time and no support from above. I knew my mum was ill, I have a grandchild on the way and another daughter is getting married next month. Very quickly my mum died so it was full time making arrangements and clearing her house. Out of the blue I was offered a dream job from having my CV online. I have stuck it a week and packed it in, starting a new job wfh is difficult and again I have not been given any actual work to do yet. I am embarrassed but that will pass and I know I'd regret it more if I stuck it out. I wonder if I'm like a lot of women who were working mothers (of 3 in my case) who don't want to be working grannies if they can financially afford it?

As many people spend a lot of their time at work it seems wrong to me to be unhappy there.