Bit upset over work issues

I moved areas and got a part time job which I put up with for 18months but it was awful. I applied for , and got another one and am so happy where I am the staff are lovely.

It’s not your skills which are at fault the place is just not nice. Find something else where you feel valued

There are so many things you can do as you get older. Life doesn't end when you retire. I trained and worked as a nurse for 47 years. I worked for Blood Transfusion service for over 2 years after that. I wasn't as quick as some of my colleagues but I got on fine with a few of them. When I left I volunteered to work with WVS and took elderly people shopping and to hospital appointments. I loved both these jobs. There are lots of things you can do when you retire. Don't give up try something different.

I have been in your situation many times. When I first left school I worked at a wine merchants where you had to take orders on the phone and attach them to the orders. Well, I had NO knowledge or skills in other languages. As you can imagine I misspelt the orders resulting in me being fired after a month. Looking back I should have looked for another job before that happened as it sapped my self-esteem. Look for another job but complain about the staff and manager before you leave. They sound to be bullies.

As lots have already said, I bet you have loads of transferable skills. It is boring if you don’t want to fully retire - could you add another skill through, say, on line courses to expand your remit? Although it may hurt just shrug this experience off, it’s time for a change. Good luck!

I volunteered for 27 years after being Medically retired. For 20 years had the same Manager & mostly the same people working there got on with each other.
When our Manager retired the Assistant Manager took over. Fine until it got too much for her with a stressful job & young family. The next Manager only wants young Volunteers with young ideas. Not many want to Volunteer in a Charity shop. So now after Lockdowns causing ill health due to lack of exercise etc I have lost my Volunteering with no consideration from the Manager. Only the then new Assistant Manager bothered to keep in touch. I feel totally useless & used as I am too old to Volunteer in this Charity shop! I am 77 but do not feel of any use in anyway now. So it is not just retiring from work into an easier job that can make you feel unwanted. I feel I wasted 27 years even though the first 20 were good & appreciated!

I am so sorry to hear that you have not been supported in your new position. I have arthritis in most of my joints and my employer (Health and Social Care) were marvellous, they provided me with a special chair, desk, light touch hole punch and stapler and a letter opener. I was seen regularly by occupational health and access to work and right up until I retired in January they were helpful and making adjustments. Even working from home they ensured that all my equipment was there and working was a comfortable experience for me. I worked there for 21 years. Please speak to your supervisor/line manager about access to work, at the very least they can supply you with a letter opener and easy to use date stamp.

I have managed a couple of gp practices, and they had different values and expectations. I retired and have had other jobs since, a couple I’ve walked out of, one I was made redundant from and I now work from home for the NHS. I didn’t imagine I would like working from home as I’m a sociable person, but it appears that I do; well in this job anyway. I think that the culture and work type have to fit you and you have to fit it. Working from home means that I can get on with my work when our meeting on teams finishes. I have high standards for myself and enjoy what I do. Leave and find your niche, whatever that may be. Good luck

Have you got a job or role description and did you have an induction into the job?

When I retired a did some temp work for a GP surgery and was offered a part time job at a different branch. It soon became obvious why the positions were vacant - due to the unpleasant nature of the practice manager and her sidekick, the Head Receptionist! Nobody lasted very long and the staff turnover was ridiculous. I stayed for nearly a year, and then resigned. Now I work for the NHS, but from home. and its great,

Don't take it to heart Sallywally, it's not you.

I worked for many years for the NHS and later as an office manager for a children's charity, and only moved jobs when the project closed.

I was offered a job as a medical secretary in a GP practice, the practice manager couldn't wait for me to start there, and she actively chased me to start as soon as a I could. What followed was the hardest 2 years of my working life. She found fault with just about everything I did, and it affected my confidence so much that I WAS making mistakes. I was so scared of her that I would start to shake whenever she walked into the room.

I used to have sleepless nights worrying about work the next day. My husband told me to tell her to stick her job up her jumper (or words to that effect) and walk out. She was pretty horrible, But something in me wouldn't give in and so I started to look for another job.

I only left when I did get another job and the last 7 years of my working life were honestly an absolute delight. I worked back in the NHS as a medical secretary for a wonderful team who treated me with respect and kindness, which in turn made a really busy job a pleasure.

I retired from that job last year with a smile on my face because I had regained my confidence and once again realised my worth.

I wish you well, if you decide to look for another job there are still some great teams out there who will appreciate your skills.

Oh.. gosh sounds like their induction and new employee support is not very effective. If you choose to stay until the first review meeting I would raise the issue of induction and clarity of expectations... good managers don't want high turnover of staff so be honest and say 'it would have been helpful if..... ' then if you intend to leave say '& as a result I do not feel job satisfaction here so regret I have to tender my resignation' ...make it clear it is there fault!

You obviously have a lot to offer the workplace or you wouldn't have been given the position. If I were in that position I would leave. I would then look for another opportunity. I wish you luck

Don't blame yourself. You had a successful career before you joined them. There are other places where you will be welcomed and not undermined.

Maybe your standards are higher, hence take longer with tasks. I remember one of my managers being astounded that I read every annual review of all the SEN children in my caseload - it was part of the job description. Upon receiving another officer’s caseload I discovered the LEA had been paying for support for five years after the child no longer needed it. I could not be as lax with the work and did not fit in.

If you are unhappy just leave they don’t deserve you,some places the people are just unkind,sometimes as we get older we are slower to start with as we don’t want to make an error and speed up when the job is familiar.Don’t stay and be upset maybe this is the opportunity to try something new and more fun,medical offices can be very stressful places and you see and hear sad stuff.This is life handing you lemons I bet you can make super lemonade,best of luck,don’t be sad.?

The practice manager, who I worked with for over 20 years was a nasty, lying, stealing bitch. The GPs eventually found out and sacked her.

I moved to a new area when I got married and got a job in the office of a warehouse.

Computers were just coming in and printouts were those with holes down the side.

Anyway, I was responsible for sending the orders for picking. The girl who showed me how to do the job was in charge of stock control.

They asked me to leave after two months as they said I had not fitted into the role. I pride myself as being quick to pick up new working methods and I was only in my 30's.

The place was very clique and it turned out that the girl in charge of stock control never updated the computer records, so what I thought was in stock wasn't. When I took this up with her she said she knew what the stock levels were as it was all in her head. This made it impossible for me to do my job properly.

Being asked to leave did affect my self esteem and confidence.

There is nothing worse than working in a bad atmosphere, especially if you are there for 8 hours a day. I am happy to be still working from home

Silly Nanny 321
Oh dear, it truly made me sad reading your post. You were an amazing worker and all your colleagues were all happy together. Somehow, younger folk are impatient and have no time to be kind and caring. I really hope you fine a nice part time job to suit you, do not give up. Someone is looking to have a kind person in their office. Good luck!

It's horrible being in a job that makes you miserable. Look for something else. Or leave. No job (even a very part-time one) is worth being unhappy about.

Please do not think this office is typical. When I was young I worked for many years as a temp secretary. I must have worked in at least 50 or more places. I could not believe the difference in the offices I worked in. I remember a couple of places where I was barely spoken to. Yet another office was having a leaving party for a staff member and, even though it was my first day, I was invited. In my experience places can vary vastly. If I were you, I'd look for another job - you will be made very welcome somewhere else I'm certain.

I’ve had 2 teaching jobs that were not good fits for me. The teaching staff were little princesses and not in the real world. (You can tell it still hurts)I stayed too long in both jobs after I realised they weren’t for me. I became Ill and stressed in both these jobs only because there were some who wanted my promoted post. Some teachers can be horrid to other teachers and when a few gang up it’s cruel.
I couldn’t afford to leave but eventually my health gave up on me, I had a rest then returned to a different role in a different discipline. 35 years later I can truly say I love my work and I’m valued. I saw one of the ‘nasties’ recently and she had physical signs of stress. Karma I thought!
I’d urge you to leave before you are pushed or your health suffers. Good luck and best wishes.

This post made me feel uncomfortable and I've just realised why.

I was getting married in 1987 and taught full time, but still had to get a weekend job to save up. I was lucky to get a job at an Estate Agent's office in Chiswick. The girls in the office liked me, but of the owners took a great dislike to me. Criticised my telephone manner when he phoned in because I didn't transfer him quickly enough, rolled his eyes when I spoke to customers, said he couldn't 'read' my handwriting, blamed me for double bookings of viewings that weren't my fault. It was awful, I never knew what he'd say next.

I had to stick it out because I needed the money and I started going in earlier and earlier to check I knew what the day held. One Saturday I went in and there was a new person. I took clients out to view as usual, and when I returned at lunch time I was told she was my replacement. I was so upset as I'd enjoyed the work.

Sallywally1 I can totally sympathise. I resigned 4 years ago to look after my granddaughter whilst my daughter worked full-time. Now my granddaughter has started school I had to go back to work. After 4 years my confidence was low. I worked in conveyancing with my own assistant before. Now I took a job as an assistant and like you felt old and slow. I was put in front of 2 screens with a case management system I'd never seen before, totally paper free. I was offered no training and felt at my lowest and ready to give in my notice. However I gave it my all and had one ally. Now six months later I have picked up the case management system and my experience has helped me through. Give yourself a time limit to stick to. If you feel more confident well done. If not, you've given it your best shot and can try a new position. Don't let others make you feel low. Find a position where you are valued.

It’s not easy being the new girl when you’ve been happy and successful for years in your previous job, & some jobs just don’t suit for all sorts of reasons. I agree with the advice to take the initiative and leave. Don’t stay where you’re not happy.

Find a better job that suits you.