At 60 I often worked a 50 hour week at something I loved. Mr C retired and while balance was needed, the thought of not working was horrific. I gradually cut down, moved focus elsewhere. Five years later we moved areas, our new home was something of a project. I continued to work on a very part time basis for three years when circumstances made clear it was time to let go
Initially I missed working dreadfully but as I had when reducing hours found as space appeared so did other things to fill the gap. Time to spend with grandchildren without time constraints, helping family, gardening, reading, siting watching the waves, being able to help neighbours, small breaks. I’m pretty good at creating routine if it feels necessary, some fairly minor volunteering also gave and gives structure, after living working life by a clock I knew instinctively too many ‘have to’s’ wouldn't work for me.
We’re all different. Have different needs and wants, what suits me (I’m a fairly quiet person not happy in large groups or noise) won’t suit others. I have two mottos now, do it while you can for pleasant things and small challenges along with one day when I feel like it for things that don’t appeal and can wait.
Of course retirement after full time work feels challenging helenlouise, why wouldn't it? Give yourself time, it is a huge transition, try new things, don’t be afraid to let go of the ones that aren’t for you, gradually a shape that suits you will emerge. It’s your time now.