DH coercing me to retire in 50s

So if you retire and he still hasn’t found a job that paid enough to keep you all in comfort? Can he be jealous of your success? His perceived failure?
It’s not ok that he is pressuring you it has to be your free decision but frankly you are only in work two days a week and the rest you can do in your own time at home.
You worked hard for this and have got to the top. A good example to your dd.
Were anything to happen to your dh or marriage and you had given up your job under pressure would you be able to earn sufficient if you were solely responsible.
Why if he thinks it so important, doesn’t your dh sit with his dd while she does her homework, though frankly this shoukd not be necessary. My gd same age does not want or need anyone watching over her.
We obviously don’t know your circumstances but your dh seems to resent your success which is presumably paying the bills. Be very careful, you have worked hard so don’t throw you career away. Unless YOU really want to.

Of course the obvious solution, as you are working in a demanding job and he is home all day, is for him to take over running the house, cooking the meals and sitting with his daughter while she watches tv and does her homework.

Yu would then be able to relax in the evenings and life would be less stressful all round.

No, it’s not worse to be divorced from an irrational self-centred bully than married to one. Your thinking is completely skewed.
I’m sorry but I don’t have much sympathy for you if you truly believe that. Your priority is to separate from your odious husband. Your daughter will cope and she’s old enough to make up her own mind about what he says about you. You describe yourself as being controlling and that’s what you’re trying to do here. You think that by staying with him you’re controlling what he says about you to your daughter.

What exactly does your stay at home husband do all day? He should be doing what he seems to want you to do, housework, cooking blah blah but you are working and earning. He is not.

As for his rages that in itself would make me seriously consider my future with him. As I said in my other post, don’t give up your job because if at some time in the future you split up you will need to support yourself and presumably your daughter too.

Do exactly what you want, and can afford, to do.

Don’t let anyone bully, coerce, force you to do anything you don’t wish to do.

Good luck

M0nica

Of course the obvious solution, as you are working in a demanding job and he is home all day, is for him to take over running the house, cooking the meals and sitting with his daughter while she watches tv and does her homework.

Yu would then be able to relax in the evenings and life would be less stressful all round.

What’s more, this is exactly how it would work in any normal family set up!