Bags we did have a showdown about the texting and phoning and it seems to have resolved itself for the time being. I know my son's girlfriend is a liberty taker who unfortunately doesn't seem to have any boundaries. I do my best to be polite to her as she is the mother of our grandchild but we are endeavouring to distance ourselves as she believes it's the grandparents' job to be readily available to look after grandchild/children at the drop of a hat. Her own mother takes our grandchild off for a couple of weeks at a time as she appears to be playing parents vicariously with her 2nd husband (they didn't have children together). Unfortunately my son and his girlfriend have allowed this situation to evolve, originally it was supposed to be one week-end a month, but sometimes these week-ends extend to one full week, ten days etc. I think it's a bad situation all round, it allows the girlfriend to think she's a part time mother, our grand daughter never really knows where she is or how long she's going to be there and the other grand mother imposes her ideas of how GD should be brought up, there's a lot of friction all round. I like to see our grand daughter regularly but I don't want to take over the parenting role, I see a grandparents role as secondary to the parents, I think most normal people do. When she's around we like to have her one day a week and do lots of things with her and she seems to enjoy being with us, I would hate to be cut off. Unfortunately I think paternal grandparents can be marginalised if they don't play their cards right. It's all very tedious, I told you I could write a book about it!