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renewing marriage vows

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harrigran Mon 30-Sep-13 11:55:03

No I would not be renewing vows, I was married 46 years ago in church and as far as I am concerned it is for life. I wonder if some feel they didn't have the wedding they wanted and want to relive the day.

mrsmopp Mon 30-Sep-13 11:27:46

Celebrating anniversaries makes more sense to me.

vampirequeen Mon 30-Sep-13 11:23:45

My aunt and uncle renewed their vows on their 50th wedding anniversary. They'd had a shotgun wedding when she was 16 and he was 17. Most people gave them no chance of a happy marriage. They'd taken their initial vows when they'd had no choice but this time it was from choice.

It was a lovely service for close friends and relatives followed by a small party. They would have had the party anyway so the service was the icing on the cake.

ginny Mon 30-Sep-13 11:15:28

I agree with mrsmopp I don't see the point of this. When you make the vows at your wedding you are making them for life. If you have been faithfull to them ,I don't see why you would need to renew them. Just show and tell each other every day and go and have a celebration either on your own or with close friends or family.

kittylester Mon 30-Sep-13 10:36:50

Have a celebration (a thanksgiving) by all means but why do you need to renew your vows either you meant it first time or not.

A friend and her husband renewed their vows on a cruise with their best friends doing the same. Turned out her husband and her best friend were having an affair. [baffled] emoticon!

JessM Mon 30-Sep-13 10:35:23

Yes felice OTT. Just have a party? Or a weekend away together? hmm

j08 Mon 30-Sep-13 10:34:38

If we did it now, the vows would be a bit different.

felice Mon 30-Sep-13 10:32:49

SIL announced to DD that he wants to renew their vows next year, 2nd anniversary, we think he is barking.!! It was a large bi-lingual service and I think our Minister would freak if asked to do it all again, he is a good friend and DD says she would need a stiff drink before she asked him, and anyway 2 years is a tad early i think, we are just ignoring him and hoping he gets over it.

Hunt Mon 30-Sep-13 09:32:55

We had such a lovely celebration when we reached our Golden wedding. Renewal of vows service in Brauston Church, grandsons did bible reading and prayers, grandaughter played Wedding at Trondheim on her flute, a buffet lunch in the village hall and a trip in 4 narrowboats (decked overall with golden wedding balloons) along the Southern Oxford canal and cake and sparkling on the towpath. 60th in 2 years time!

sunseeker Mon 30-Sep-13 09:23:44

On a significant anniversary, say 25 or 50 years, I think it is a lovely way to celebrate the marriage. If you don't agree then don't go.

annsixty Mon 30-Sep-13 09:17:27

Surely you can say I love you without a ceremony and costly reception.

j08 Mon 30-Sep-13 09:16:43

mrsmopp DO NOT give gifts!

j08 Mon 30-Sep-13 09:16:05

Yukkie!

And ridiculous.

Once is quite enough. hmm

vampirequeen Mon 30-Sep-13 09:13:11

I think they're lovely when it's a special anniversary such as 25 or 50. It's nice to say I still love you as much now as I did all those years ago.

mrsmopp Mon 30-Sep-13 09:08:21

You will all think i am a grouchy old grump but whats the point in these ceremonies to renew vows made till death us do part? we have been invited to one and i love the couple but its a long way so it would mean 2 nights in a hotel too. Are we supposed to givr gifts too? It seems pointless when they are a
lready married. It wasnt long ago either, just a few years. I just dont get it. Vows made for life dont need renewing.
Never had all that in my day. Just celebrate the anniversaries !!