But it is his choice - I do not feel any obligation to try and change my OH and make him the same as me.
I have tried chivvying him up and trying to get him to do things until I started to ask myself why I was doing it. He has the right to be himself and live his life as he wishes, as long as he is harming no-one. He is honest and faithful and I do not think it is up to me to try and make him someone else.
He affords me the same courtesy, and, although I know that sometimes he wishes I were there and not out, he never interferes or tries to stop me. If he did, I would probably feel as irritated as these poor stop-at-home husbands do when their wives are trying to get them to take up a hobby or be the life and soul of the party!
The proviso I would add is that if you think your husband might truly be suffering from depression then this puts a different light on the matter and he needs help.
Our Welfare State. Is it broken?