To care about birthday being ignored?

Much happier to get a text for my birthday- I'm not a great lover of cards.

My brother remembered my mum and dads birthday and made a point of not sending cards, saying he didn't believe in them, so mum and dad did the same to him.He didn't like it but what could he say.
I let him know when mum went into hospital for a mastectomy and not a card, phone call or anything.my mum was so hurt, and I was so angry with him,I saw the hurt in my mum.
But when she died he was bealing,upset and sent a big bunch of flowers.oh what a lovely jesture many said,I couldn't agree,but said nothing.Ill never forget the hurt that gave my mum.I could call him many names, non of them polite!
I do still see him occasionally....

Thanks for all the responses. I think I was just having a wobble on the day I posted, I’m (pretty much) over it now. However, if I don’t get anything for Christmas I will GSP have to ask if I’ve offended them in some way! (Hard to know how, given they all live some distance from each other, and from me and my ex).
Still, all over and done with now, least said soonest mended and all of that ......

It's not just men. My sister never sends cards or presents. She says it's too stressful! I think it's sad she can't even send a card.

Haha I don't even get a text from my son on my birthday. The only time he has ever "remembered" my birthday is during the 2 years he was with his ex, who was kind enough to add his name to the cards they sent me as a family. Fortunately she and my grandson and step granddaughter are still a part of my life, so I kind of gained a daughter to make up for the son I never really had.

I’m shocked by all these neglectful sons. Birthdays are important and young people make a huge fuss over every birthday ending in a nought, so how can they excuse forgetting their mothers’ special day?
They need telling how hurt you were and that a card and present is expected.

I've told mine and he doesn't care. I think there must be some random "don't care" gene that some people must be born with - which like red/green colour blindness usually only expresses itself in males.

My son woke me up by playing a dreadful version of happy birthday through the Sonos speaker in our room, over and over, annoying but thoughtful in his weird way! Think there's no excuse for a quick text or TouchNote card, it takes seconds and even though not as personal as a hand written one, it still counts, you only have one mum and I bet their little birthdays were all arranged by you

DD never forgets and always sends cards and presents for birthdays and Christmas and a card for our wedding anniversary. DS has a most kind and thoughtful wife who was so shocked that he could forget that she either prompts or takes over. She never forgets! The weird thing is that DS loves us all to bits and does such kind things for us and the most romantic things for DDIL like, for example, planting pots and pots of her favourite flowers so that all summer when DGS1 was born she was surrounded by beautiful flowers. People are so complicated!