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My neighbour wants to climb my tree

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ninjagran Thu 09-Aug-18 17:30:32

We noticed a miaowing at the bottom of our garden this morning. It appears a cat has got itself stuck. The tree is covered in ivy and very tall so we can't actually see the cat itself though we can definitely hear it. I've called the RSPCA and their advice is to leave it - it will come down on its own. My neighbours however are insistent on rescuing the poor thing and keep knocking on my door. They want to bring ladders through my house and into the garden and try get at it. I'm not particularly happy about this and have put them off so far. Not just because of the ladders, but I also don't know these neighbours very well (they're at the back to the side if you know what I mean) so I know one of them by sight but that's about it. I'm not being unreasonable am I?

Jalima1108 Thu 09-Aug-18 23:11:28

I watched one come down backwards the other day - very slowly and carefully.
She's a very young cat too.

Squiffy Thu 09-Aug-18 23:30:30

Cats can usually only come down backwards because their claws can only grip that way round. Squirrels paws are different, so they can run down forwards.

Bluegal Fri 10-Aug-18 07:54:13

Cats do generally come down themselves if left to it but may be frightened with so many people around?

How long has it been there? Maybe leave some cat food at the bottom and all retreat back?

If it doesn't come back in a few days then I would let anybody in to get it down. Don't you have a ladder yourself OP? I don't really understand you saying "you don't know these people" What better way to GET to know people. I think yes YAB a tad unreasonable.

BlueBelle Fri 10-Aug-18 08:09:36

Sorry but I find it mean to not let them come through your house surely a house can never take precedence over an animal
I m not an over the top cat lover but I don’t like any animal upset or fearful
If you’re so worried about your hall just point out to them to be careful..... but really that’s pretty mean to not let them through

sodapop Fri 10-Aug-18 08:26:21

I agree with BlueBelle and Bluegal Time to be a little neighbourly.

harrigran Fri 10-Aug-18 08:31:46

Just stand under the tree and rattle a spoon against a tin can or dish, watch the cat descend smartish.

GrannyGravy13 Fri 10-Aug-18 08:55:18

Ninjagran is the cat down yet?

If not please let the neighbours into your garden to rescue the poor thing, it will be getting tired, frightened and hungry.

You never know, you may really like your neighbours, it's always nice to have a good relationship with people close by.

Maggiemaybe Fri 10-Aug-18 09:24:16

I imagine the RSPCA know what they’re talking about. Though it’s not likely to come down while all hell’s breaking loose below it.

HootyMcOwlface Fri 10-Aug-18 10:00:24

Is it down yet? If not, try shaking a tub of Whiskas Temptations cat treats, mine would rip your leg off to get at those.

PECS Fri 10-Aug-18 10:23:03

As it happens yesterday, a person I know locally had posted on FB that her cat was stuck up a tree , miowing and appeared unable to come down. It had done this before but her neighbour had managed to reach it with a broom and poke it down! The neighbour was away so could not help from her side of the fence! A picture posted this morning showed the cat back home having breakfast.. down under its own steam!

felice Fri 10-Aug-18 10:27:27

Our two cats can spend an afternoon running up and down the very tall trees in the garden, to tease the dog.
At first we were worried but then realised it was all a game, they always seem to come down forwards sometimes jumping over the dog at the bottom. They get on well together and it is great fun to watch them.
The cat is probably mors terrified of a lot of strangers making a lot of noise than being up the tree.

Greyduster Fri 10-Aug-18 10:42:40

Some time after the incident I mentioned upthread, DH reminded me that another of my cats tree’d itself in a tall fir tree in the back garden. There was no way (and no intention) of repeating the aforementioned rescue exercise. She did manage to find her way down onto some lower branches, and then he extended my wooden washing line prop - about four inches wide - as far as it would go and eventually she made her way down it putting one paw in front of the other ever so gingerly. They can do it. But I agree with those who say all the hubbub from the concerned neighbours is likely to be the main problem!

ninjagran Fri 10-Aug-18 11:20:08

The cat is down. Or we assume so because there's been no noise this morning. Hopefully it's gone back to its home and plate of food. Bit harsh I think to tell me I'm being mean by not wanting strangers traipsing through my hallway. They didn't stay very long under the tree I don't think so probably gave up because I don't think the ladder would have reached nearly high enough. And yes, what I know of cats they would have scrambled up even higher. Crisis over I'm happy to say!

OldMeg Fri 10-Aug-18 11:28:20

I imagine the RSPCA know what they’re talking about

Not always in my experience Maggiemaybe and I foster rescue dogs so have lots of dealings with the RSPCA. It depends on the quality of the person on the other end of the line, believe me!

OldMeg Fri 10-Aug-18 11:30:56

Did you consider that they wouldn’t be complete ‘strangers’ by the time they’d finished ‘traipsing through’ your house ninjagran and that helping or hindering sends out a message to neighbours about yourself?

Farmnanjulie Fri 10-Aug-18 13:39:35

I would let people bring ladders through if there is no other way,it's a distressed cat,if it could get down it would,that's why it's meowing!
Sometime cats can go up but feel unsafe or frightened and cannot get down,it's also a icebreaker with your neighbours as well ,a common ground to get you all talking.

To many people are not community minded,help out when you can!
I cannot see why on earth you would mind!

annodomini Fri 10-Aug-18 13:48:28

Good news. Cats are pretty good at stringing their owners along! ?

lilihu Fri 10-Aug-18 13:56:46

Ninja gran - I agree, there were some harsh comments that were uncalled for. Your house, your decision.

muffinthemoo Fri 10-Aug-18 13:57:52

Serious question: not a cat owner, I always heard that if a cat is up your tree, you turn the hose on full on it to get it down? I assume this is bad advice?

lemongrove Fri 10-Aug-18 14:22:49

Well, it’s bad advice for the cat muffin although it would be a quick solution. grin

Maggiemaybe Fri 10-Aug-18 14:25:07

Bad advice if you want to keep in with the neighbours, muffin. grin

mcem Fri 10-Aug-18 14:48:19

Couldn't you see it as an opportunity to get to know your neighbours a bit better? There may come a time when offers of help or cooperation from them would benefit you.

OldMeg Fri 10-Aug-18 14:53:13

That’s what I was thinking mcem

Bluegal Fri 10-Aug-18 15:05:50

It always makes me laugh when people post asking the question "Am I being unreasonable?" Then complain when they are told they are!

What is the point in asking the question?

I can't actually see any harsh comments other than those who feel she IS being unreasonable and pointing out that it would be a good opportunity to get acquainted with the neighbours. As Meg says, it says a lot about a person if they are unwilling to help in such circumstances. I wouldn't object and I wouldn't expect any of my neighbours to object to similar requests but it IS up to the OP what she does....but if you ask if others agree or disagree then you have to be prepared to a variety of responses - well that's how I see it anyway.

BlueBelle Fri 10-Aug-18 15:25:47

Isn’t it funny how you can put such a different inflection on a sentence by using a negative adjective The neighbours would have been traipsing through posters hall ? but I guess they would have kindly walked through if it was the posters pet stuck somewhere
There were no harsh comments just comments of people not agreeing with your decision Ninjagran
Always preferable to be a good neighbour you never know when you might need their help
I hope the little cat has found it s way home