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Surprise Party Invitation

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Jane10 Fri 23-Nov-18 09:31:59

When we had a surprise party for my Dad's 80th his elderly friend phoned him that morning to say that he was unwell and couldn't come. We sort of laughed it off and thought we'd covered it up but after the meal Dad stood up with a long speech and poem he'd prepared. Seems like he'd had an inkling anyway but it was a great success and a happy time. I'm sure the OP's party will be much enjoyed by all too.

harrigran Fri 23-Nov-18 08:45:43

After the event ask DH who it was that blabbed and make sure you never invite them again. I hate it that some people just can not keep their mouths shut.
Hope it is special anyway.

Nanabilly Fri 23-Nov-18 08:19:02

I'm rubbish at keeping surprises. Secrets I can keep easily but surprises ..no !
We have a son approaching a big 0 birthday soon and his gf is planning something special .I've told her not to involve me as it makes me ill. I hate the feeling that I'm being deceitful or lying or keeping something from them as I had to for our youngest sons surprise party a few years ago. Everyone was cheering him into the party while I was vomiting in the loos. Said I'd never do it again. Maybe this woman is just rubbish at this kind of thing or maybe she just did not realise. You would have to be one he ll of a nasty person to spoil a surprise on purpose.
Just ride this one out and carry on as you were.

MissAdventure Thu 22-Nov-18 22:42:18

I suppose it could have been an accident?
I've sometimes blurted things out without thinking.

SueDonim Thu 22-Nov-18 22:37:39

Oh dear! I think the best policy is to not make any more reference to this woman, as if it's if no consequence to you, and hope he forgets about it.

Did you actually say on the invitation for no one to mention it in your dh's presence? If not, I suppose someone a bit dense could possible think it's simply a party that will have a surprise within it e.g. a stripper jumping out of the cake!

annodomini Thu 22-Nov-18 22:33:13

One of my sisters is almost incapable of keeping a secret. She managed to reveal to me a surprise that my sons were planning for my 70th birthday and I had to pretend that is was a surprise! She is also quite offended if she finds out that we have been keeping something from her!
But she's still my sister and my best friend.

Grannyknot Thu 22-Nov-18 22:19:41

As my friend would say "There has to always be one dufus".

Some people just don't read things properly, or, I'd want to corner her and ask "What part of "Surprise Party" didn't you understand? smile

Annoying.

Good luck with the party!

MissAdventure Thu 22-Nov-18 21:54:24

You're going to have to hone your lying skills! grin good luck, enjoy the party.

Grandmarnia Thu 22-Nov-18 21:46:10

Thank you ladies
I have held off emailing as I didn't want to offend anyone and I didn't want to question my husband as to who had asked as I didn't want to seem to keen...

I did say the person must have got him mixed up with someone else!

Oakleaf Thu 22-Nov-18 21:38:56

Ignore it. You only know of one person who blabbed so not a good idea to offend everyone else by emailing them or those who were planning to come might decide not to. Also, a stroppy email from you could create tension between him and his art class members in the future. It's understandable you are annoyed but maybe the woman who let the cat of the bag is simply a little forgetful. It's done now. Don't let it spoil your enjoyment of the party.

Bridgeit Thu 22-Nov-18 21:36:49

I Agree with DoraMarr , hope it all goes well

DoraMarr Thu 22-Nov-18 21:32:01

Oh dear! I would email everyone and just say “just a reminder- this is a surprise party for my husband- please keep the secret!” Then I would just say to husband, if he asks again, “Oh, I just invited a couple of people from the art class for a drink next week, she must have got the dates mixed up.”

Grandmarnia Thu 22-Nov-18 21:26:17

If you received an invitation to a party headed "Surprise Party", would you assume that the birthday person did not know about the party and that it was err a surprise?
My husband attends a weekly art class and had a significant birthday on Tuesday. Invitations were emailed to all art class members from myself to attend a Surprise Birthday Tea this coming Saturday.
I have received some replies.
Today, my husband has come home from the art class asking me what is happening on Saturday? One bloddy woman has said "I've received an invitation to your house for a "do" on Saturday, are you looking for to it?"
I am so cross!
My AIBU is.. would I be unreasonable to email all the members again to say that I don't appreciate the Surprise Party now not being a surprise or do I ignore it.
Why would someone do this?
I have spent months organising this Surprise Party and have relatives travelling here, his old work colleagues are coming and I have managed to keep it all hush hush and now today this!