Background...
Divorced with 2 DD’s and 1 DGS
Partner divorced with 3 children.
All children at various stages, uni/work/starting family
We don’t live together but are, I like to think, a pretty solid couple. We sometimes touch on the subject of living together but we are both used to and like, the space that living apart gives us. It makes our time together really special.
When we first met, one of DP’s dreams was to retire to another country, or at least move into a rural part of Britain.
At first I accepted that we may not last, as I have never been prepared to do this, but obviously wouldn’t have wanted him to give up his dream for me.
But as time has passed , he’s spoken about it less and less and has become quite involved with life in his (semi rural ) village and is very settled there.
Just before Xmas, he said he had been chatting to his DD about her mother’s (DP’s ex wife) recently failed relationship.
They (apparently lightheartedly 
) got onto the subject of our relationship and told me that his DD had said she was ‘concerned’ that ultimately we wanted different things so does wonder how it will work for us
I don’t think he realised how hurt I would feel about the comment but there was no time to discuss it at that time. So, in true Flaxseed style, I let it eat away at me for a few days.
Until yesterday I had pretty much forgotten about it as we had a lovely time over the festive season and have spent a lot of time planning lovely things to do this year.
So, last night we were out with DP’s extended family & children and same DD brings up the subject and said ‘well Dad wants to buy a place in (fav country) don’t you Dad?’
DP kindly looked my way and said ‘I don’t think Flaxseed wants to though’
Feeling embarrassed, I said I’d compromise on a holiday home.
I then saw DD say quietly to DP ‘just do it’
It’s made me very unsettled today. If it’s something he really wants to do then I would’nt stand in his way but I feel he may be influenced into doing it by her.
I thought I got on well with her but now I feel that she actually doesn’t actually like me that much.
I couldn’t speak to DP last night as I was returning home earlier than the rest of them due to a long shift today.
I do plan to discuss it at the weekend though.
Am I overthinking this?
Would anyone else feel a bit pee’d off?
Am I just too sensitive?! 
magrithia
It’s my DD that is in distress.
My intention always was to talk to DP, but I have had no chance to since posting, as I have been working.
This weekend is now not looking good due to my need to support DD.
Even if I do get to DP’s later I’m not sure it will be a good time to bring it up as I will be a bit too emotional!
What a good start to 2019 - not!!
Best wishes for your daughter from me too Flaxseed 
for you and your DD, Flaxseed. I hope things go well for you both.
Flaxseed
I'm sure your DP will want to support you and your DD.
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