Mothers Day is cancelled

I would feel upset Muffin to, would tell him so as welI, the would get the gift and card for his mother from you and children.

Like lots of these “days” Mother’s Day has become very commercialised - it always angered me that the bunch of flowers selling for £1 one week was now £5. So when my girls were small I banned them from buying me cards and presents and encouraged them to make something for me. This backfired one year when they were around 10 and 8 though - they arrived at my bedside with homemade cards and the biggest bunch of daffodils you ever saw. “Where did these come from” I asked. “We found them!” came the reply ... oops! BTW muffin - order yourself a big bouquet on his credit card, whilst your ordering the MIL’s!

I will be cooking lunch today for my wife and our three daughters with their families ( eleven in total)

So far, all the vegetables are peeled and ready, table nicely laid with serviets set in fan style in glasses etc, wine in the fridge (well, all I can get in there). Timings for everything I have written down to ensure I do not forget anything

The menu will be prawn cocktails or Pate, Roast Beef and all the trimmings, Apple pie followed by Cheese and Biscuits.

All the family will be arriving at @ 1:00pm for "mingling and nuts + nibbles" with service starting at approx 1:45pm.

I shall ensure that there will be copious amounts of wine available with each course, so Taxies will have to be ordered to get them all home this evening.

Just sorting out the background music for the lunch but with streaming these days, Google can virtually take care of that on its own.

So far so good I am pleased to say. After all that preparation I could do with a large glass of wine already, but I better had not.

Grandad , at the risk of sounding like a bitter old crone, women do that over and over again for years.

But the fan shaped serviettes are impressive.

Have a nice day!

Grandad1943 sounds great! You are a 'new'/old man.

I mean - slightly older. Not old.

GoneGirl, I am seventy-five but thankfully still fully fit and working near full time in my company.

I do Mothers day lunch for the family every year, and it always seems to go down really well with taxis required to get them home every time. I view that as an achievement on my part.

Anyway better get on again.

You are amazing Grandad1943. I ducked out of doing the family dinner this year and I'm only a couple of years older than you! I'm leaving it to daughter.

Muffin I'm hoping you have received a surprise from your OH to-day. if not please accept these flowers

Happy Mother’s Day Muffin. for you today.

Absolutely Lily.

Mothers' Day divides smug mothers from women who have not given birth, have lost their child in one way or another, who have ungrateful offspring. Keep a day for your mother by all means but shut up about it. It's private .

It can be a very difficult day for a number of reasons.

If a poster raises the issue of Mother's Day and expresses her disappointment in her partner's attitude, it is surely inevitable that people will relate their own experiences - good or bad.

There have been lots of different opinions and supportive words on this thread but I don't think there has been a great deal of "smugness".

How sad Alexa for you , I am making my own dinner/lunch , homemade soup home made bread and vintage cheese (bought )

The trip to the Turkish restaurant yesterday had to be abandoned because DD1 didn't feel up to it so we asked them to sort out a take-away instead and they did us proud. DD2 and I collected it and when we saw how crowded the restaurant was with families (lots of young children) obviously celebrating a day early, we realised it was a far better bet and more relaxing to stay at home.

Phew!!

A quiet day today. The roast is almost ready and as there will only be three of us I'll soon be able to put my feet up.

It's a tricky day for lots of people - emotions can be all over the place. Sending hugs for those who need them.

Alexa, not one bit smug here. It's been a struggle. My own mother was vile tome on the phone this morning. My AC are coming over, we will spend a pleasant hour or 2.

These festivals can really press your buttons if you feel a bit low.

Alexa that’s a very unkind post. If threads about Mothers Day upset you so much, then just don’t click on them. I could say something about why today’s Mothers Day was particular special for me and DD but suffice it to say we have nothing to be smug about and everything to be grateful for. Of course I feel for those who are not in this position but that’s true on lots of threads. I don’t post about very personal issues on GN and the only thing I am open about is my disability. There are posts which talk about the pleasures and activities that posters enjoy because they are clearly fully mobile, including activities with dgc, which are completely closed to me. I don’t go on those threads and accuse non- disabled people of being smug. I’m sorry if MD has touched a nerve in your personal life.

My son and daughter came up with a lovely idea this year. Both families came for the day yesterday (Saturday). My daughter brought all of the food for an amazing lunch which we enjoyed in the garden.My son brought flowers and a card. We had a relaxed and chilled out day with all of them. We had planned to get a big Chinese meal for the evening but everyone was still full from lunchtime. They all left by 7pm. Now they can each have their special Mothering Sunday celebrations with their own children today and we can have a lovely day reading the papers and pottering in the garden. Wonderful.

If threads about Mothers Day upset you so much, then just don’t click on them.
I agree. Many of us, or our DC, may have personal issues which we do not mention on here and, if a thread is about Mothering Sunday, something which may make someone feel unhappy or raw, then it's best not to click on that thread.

For the first time in his adult life, my son came in person to deliver a basket of flowers. Lovely! He then went home to finish preparing lunch for his wife and family, and probably her parents too, as is usual.
Fortunately I was lucky enough to be invited to lunch with my daughter. Her husband had invited his mother too.

Makes up for many difficult years in my younger days.

I do know how difficult this day can be for many Grans and mums, especially those bereaved, or childless, or without their children for whatever reason.

I do know how difficult this day can be for many Grans and mums, especially those bereaved, or childless, or without their children for whatever reason.
It can be difficult for many people for many and varied reasons Cabbie, well said.

muffin how was your day?

I really hope that your DH stepped up to the mark, even if it was just to take over some of the childcare today.

How wonderful Grandad1943!

I hope you got a good day Muffin!

As for me, this year is the first time eldest DS (recently estranged) ignored Mothers Day. Its just one day and Id rather speak to him than get a gift...Fortunately I have other kids to enjoy and we made a fuss of MiL

Jalima wrote:

"---if a thread is about Mothering Sunday, something which may make someone feel unhappy or raw, then it's best not to click on that thread."

You are probably right. I tend to view conversations here as discussions, whereas they are supposed to be for friendly chat.

I thought there was a general discussion to be had about the institution of Mothering Sunday .