Friends after retirement and move?

I havnt read all the posts but is there any reason why you can’t still keep in touch with and meet occasionally your old friends.? Yes 5 hours us a distance but not impossible if you overnight somewhere. We are just back from visiting our closest friends who moved 4 hours away from here over 25 years ago. We take turns to do the trip and usually stay for a night or two. It can work though takes work to make it work. What happens as we age no one knows but fir the time being we remain close.

In the meantime all the advice given is helpful fir your new situation. Acquaintances can be made quickly but friends take longer. I hope it works out fir you.

Thanks for your reply Mousepotato.

Another way of looking at it is that you and your husband are new blood in the community who others may be looking to to bring fresh ideas and opportunities. You may already be doing this in your work with the city task force.

I'd love to hear whether you do decide to host card parties or start a movie group or about any other idea that you and your husband come up with to make new friends.

Sometimes it only needs someone to kick start the idea and others will come forward to help out with admin and publicity or to share hosting.

Good luck.

Does your new town have a local Facebook page? The Cast Cary real news page is typical of the ones they have around here ( Frome, Bruton etc. have their own) In the last few days there have been posts about an art exhibition, crafts workshops, cookery courses and several restaurants and pubs offering live music and special menus.There are exercise clubs and beat therapists advertising. I think that if you just decided to go to a selection of things you would probably make some new friends quite quickly.
I joined the Labour Part last year and they have lots of events you can help out at and meet new friends.

What is a beat therapist please? Quite intriguing. Is is like afternoon horse play?

Is there a WI near you? I joined ours and got to know people better and am now president! Riding for the Disabled always welcome volunteers (age no object as long as you're reasonably able bodied!) As Luckyfour says the National Trust is a good place to volunteer too

Have a look around for some craft groups. I joined a watercolour group, exercise class and also pop along to a slimming group. You may not need to lose weight but I met a couple of great people there. Do you have a dog? Maybe long walks with the dog or volunteer to walk a neighbour's dog. You need to meet people or you will feel like you are drowning. Take care. X

Have people not seen Mousepotato's update from yesterday? She is in Idaho, USA so references to UK organisations are not going to be relevant. She also explains that she is already busy with voluntary work and only looking for ideas for occasional (monthly) social activities that allow both she and her husband to make friends together.

Hello mousepotato, do understand what you have written. Am in similar position, and finding it hard to go to things alone. Enjoy your day.

I have a husband who is quiet, anti-social, prefers being at home with me to going anywhere. So in my 30s to 50s I went out, he stayed home, babysat when the children were younger. He was happy because I was happy. Now I have turned into him, due to ill health putting paid to a social life for myself. I miss my closest female friends, one who moved hundreds of miles away and the other died many years ago. But other than that, I am happy as a pig in muck. We have loads of hobbies, some shared, most not. We potter happily, moving from one thing to another, doing what suits us, what pleases us. I think you either have to let him be in peace, accept this is how he wants to live his life and he has the right to be as he is, and get out yourself. There is nothing, presumably, stopping you?

Hello all! As I previously stated I guess I wasn’t clear about what I was asking. I do go out alone or with friends and am very active in the community. I also take continuing online classes in history and art literature. I love my husband dearly and was looking for ideas for activities to do together as nothing I suggested interested him. Plus I felt he needed a bit of socializing at his age. Someone here understood me and suggested cards with neighbors or....once a month like we used to do. That was super and our first game was last Sunday! He loved it! So all’s well and we are both happy ?