To move or not to move, advice needed.

My DD has just returned from living in Queensland and I’ve seen the different types of houses there and to be honest majority of them are bungalows so I would have thought it would have been easy to get what you wanted.
However as others have said they have bought the best house for there investment hence the amount of land.
Now to get around the problem I think I would approach it by saying “ we really appreciate what you’ve done for us with the house however it’s not working for us we are not able to move around it due to the stair issue”. Then say our options are we move out to something smaller that we can manage or can we get a date for when the ramps can be put in, cos I’d like to be able to enjoy this lovely house but at the moment in my poor health it feels like a prison....... then see what they say.

Oh dear, this is horrible, how could they think you'd be ok? You need to sit them down and tell them straight, how difficult it is for you. Good luck x

I would talk to your dd and explain it is not working out and need to move

It seems to me that right from the start your D and her H knew exactly what they wanted to do, even what house they wanted to buy and went ahead and did it. They were not remotely interested in your needs. Just thought it would be convenient to have you as the tenants and on their doorstep and not have to travel so far to visit.

Treat them the way they treated you. Go out and find yourself a suitable property where you are or back where you came from and where you probably have friends. Then hand your notice in and relocate.

They did not listen to you. Why should you take any notice of them?

My immediate thought was the same as practically everyone else on here, that your daughter and husband’s primary concern was how profitable the house would be for them in the future.

Sadly they didn’t consider your needs at all in buying this property, so you need to have firm words with them about how best to go about finding you a bungalow or ground floor apartment.

A very sad situation.

Thank you all for the support and good advice. A further week has gone by during which time our back neighbour complained to the Council about the two foot high grass in the backyard, my daughter ignored our request to borrow her rider mower so my husband could try to cut it, one side neighbour came to see us and brought his own rider mower and spent two hours cleaning it all up out of the kindness of his heart. My daughter only commented 'great!' when I told her, even though it was to her that the Council made a request to cut the grass. So yesterday I wrote to her, told her again that we were not coping, that we needed her husband and herself to work out a timeframe and a plan to get everything done. I said we felt we had lost control of our lives, and needed their support to get back on top again. They haven't responded. I gave them till tonight to respond, but in the meantime we have made enquiries both here and where we lived before about suitable houses to move to. I shall not approach them again if we don't hear back, we shall just quietly move away and resume our lives. It is very sad, and I am deeply upset but every time I dwell on it my heart plays up since my heart attack which is five months ago now. I feel we can get back to where we were if we are strong, and in another 6 hours my time limit for their response will be up, and we'll go full tilt at finding somewhere else.

Now that the deadline has passed, I hope you now have the peace of a decision reached and, whatever, your daughters response (or not). You can now see the way forward and can move somewhere that makes your life comfortable.

Who sorry, Borntosew, I hope the move goes well, I know it must be so hard being so let down, by your own daughter, unfortunately this happens often. If you have the money pay for all the care and help you can.?

Take care of yourself
You dont need an uphill battle, which is what having you DD as landlord became x

I sincerely hope that you are both well.
You need to have a bungalow,it is terrible to feel trapped and to lose your independence.
Your daughter would surely be able to buy one if as wealthy as she seems to be.
You know what you need to say and do.
I am sincerely thinks of you, good luck.
Just don't make yourself I'll worrying about it.