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Trisha57 Sun 24-May-20 21:28:56

OH just said to me "Watch what you want to watch on TV". We had just watched bloody Antiques Roadshow, which quite honestly bores me silly, but OH likes it. I flicked through a few things and said "Oh, I would like to watch Sewing Bee", to which he replied "Oh God!!!". Now he wonders why I have told him to watch whatever else he wants. He can't find anything that he likes, but still doesn't want to watch Sewing Bee. AIBU to tell him to not ask me what I want to watch if he would rather watch something that he doesn't really enjoy rather than me watch something I would enjoy? Sorry for the convoluted language, but I am fuming and he has now stormed off to bed!!!

PinkCakes Wed 03-Jun-20 19:09:47

We've only got one tv (never wanted one in the bedroom), and my husband watches all the programmes he likes - I don't share his taste in things - whilst I either look at things on YouTube or listen to music.

Shropshirelass Wed 03-Jun-20 09:19:03

When my husband says 'there's nothing on the tele', I do say 'you can always switch it off'. However, very often the next day I find out that there was something on that I would have wanted to watch. He conveniently forgets to tell me this at the time! Men and the remotes!

Davidhs Sat 30-May-20 09:58:10

Although we like pretty much the same TV programmes, OH multitasks, she can listen to an audiobook with an ear bud, browse on a laptop, watch TV and eat supper at the same time. We do go to bed at the same time though.

Grandad1943 Sat 30-May-20 07:22:32

I really do not understand how in these times there can be arguments in regard to what to watch on television.

Anyone now can watch tv not only on the large screen televisions but also on their phone, tablet laptop or PC. If you watch on your phone, tablet or laptop you do not even have to move to a different room. All you need is a pair of light earphones or earbuds and there you are. Him watching the sport while the good lady watches the sowing bee or whatever else she wishes.

With the fine weather of late, we have been watching a lot of television on our phones in the garden, each to their own program.

This thread seems to be a debate about a matter that can be very easily avoided in these times, and is by many millions each day in Britain.

rubysong Fri 29-May-20 09:26:39

This is why I go to bed so late. While DH is watching war films, police chases, sport etc. I am on this tablet reading all the GN posts and Facebook while the things I want to watch are recording. DH goes to bed quite early so I have a couple of hours to watch what I want, sewing bee, gardening etc. I also do wordsearches, sudoku and jigsaws. We both watch Midsomer Murders and quite a few other things we both like so there are no real problems.

Mamma66 Fri 29-May-20 08:29:16

We tend to watch TV together in the evening and can usually find common ground. I am working from home at the moment and he is furloughed, so we watch the stuff we like separately when the other is working / busy. We have never watched so much TV though, thank God for Netflix as we have binge watched every single episode of Spooks! smile

Tangerine Wed 27-May-20 16:35:16

I think the solution is to perhaps have two TV's although I accept not everyone wishes to shell out for a second one.

At least you can records things these days and watch them at a later day.

grannylyn65 Wed 27-May-20 13:49:20

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GrandmasueUK Wed 27-May-20 13:47:05

My OH very rarely wants to watch TV in the evening. I watch things I have recorded and he goes into his man-cave. We do sometimes watch a film together, but for some reason at the end of last year, he watched a French series with me. It was, however, series 7 and he'd not seen any of the previous ones, so I had to keep stopping the programme while I explained the back story of the main characters grin I enjoyed it though.

timetogo2016 Wed 27-May-20 13:33:37

Well put Juniper1.
My aunt has a tv in the kitchen so she can watch tv in peace and my uncle rarely goes in there so peace all round.

lemongrove Wed 27-May-20 08:03:23

We’ve chosen to only have one tv ( in the sitting room) but we used to have one in the bedroom too, which was rarely watched.We do have a radio in every room though ( literally!)
Fortunately we are considerate with each other and if one of us wants to watch Downton Abbey ( me!)? the other one goes off to do something else,or sits doing a crossword etc.
It’s just give and take.

Doug1 Tue 26-May-20 23:13:46

My pet hate is when he puts on a film that has already started and we have no idea what is really happening but he wants to carry on watching. When I give up and start to read my kindle I am then the one being antisocial cos I am not watching with him!

Craftycat Tue 26-May-20 09:57:55

We could not exist without 2 TVs. Our tastes are totally opposite. He has his in his study & I watch the one in the sitting room! Apart from Corrie -which he likes so we watch it together - Oh! & the rugby when it is on- which we both love.

Calendargirl Tue 26-May-20 07:00:45

Jimjam1

I realise you are probably being ironic, but many of us are not holding our breath until the shops open again!

We are not all shopaholics.

PamelaJ1 Tue 26-May-20 06:33:51

I agree with all of you?
I usually read a book!
If there is anything I really want to watch I go into the bedroom but we don’t get all the channels in there so sometimes I record ‘my programmes’.
Occasionally he has to leave the sitting room.

Just goes to show how much stronger we are, I can just about tolerate being in the same room as Drew Pritchard, Compo is really hard work and now he has discovered that spin off from only fools and horses. ? Five minutes of Sewing Bee sees him off!

lincolnimp Tue 26-May-20 01:38:23

I've just realised that we have 6 TVs.
None of our children ever had TVs in their rooms when they lived at home, but one way and another we have acquired several TVs in the last few years.
It does mean that when we have visitors they have a TV in their bedroom, I have one in the kitchen/breakfast room, and we also have one in the dining/sewing/study/everything room as well as the main one in the sitting room.
No arguments here, but I do need to keep waking my DH when we are both watching something together, and he goes to sleep---so misses the best bits

Jimjam1 Mon 25-May-20 21:41:17

Never mind ladies. Shops due to open in two weeks time.?????

dproff Mon 25-May-20 21:33:45

Most definitely get a tv in another room, even the bedroom. My oh watches old black and white war films, john Wayne films, car make overs. Even though hes seen them all before. I feel like I live with a very old man even though he is younger than me! Can't stand any of them so disappear to watch my tv. Bliss

Gingster Mon 25-May-20 19:31:09

Dh and I never watch tv together. He loves his sport and antique progs and I like dramas and other progs that he would hate. It’s lovely to do your own thing In Your own space. As others said another tv is essential . Kitchen or bedroom.

Jillybird Mon 25-May-20 18:49:28

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Jillybird Mon 25-May-20 18:42:36

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sarahanew Mon 25-May-20 17:35:00

Omg, doesn't the television cause a lot of arguments. Your situation quite typical I think. Watches what he wants when there's something in he likes, 'allows' you to have the control when there isn't and then moans at your choice. Yeah, typical

PennyWhistle Mon 25-May-20 17:17:34

DH and I have separate hobbies and interests, and we share a love of walking. So we compromise - we walk early in the morning locally to enjoy the wildlife - then we separate into our separate hobby rooms, and meet up for lunch. And often the afternoons are the same. We both strongly believe that compromise, mutual respect and acceptance is the secret to staying happy together.

I watch TV on my PC and he watches his war films and car programs on the main TV - and everyone is happy. Apart from Strictly of course! Simples.

I sincerely hope the OP finds that compromise with her DH too.

Camelotclub Mon 25-May-20 17:14:17

Jane10
And separate bathrooms!

sarahellenwhitney Mon 25-May-20 14:52:28

Kircubbinn2000.
Maybe that's why our marriage lasted so long because we never felt the need to' wanna do everything together'