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Either change your password or create a new e-mail.

I wouldn't bother to tell him. You have asked about him using your e-mail account, so he can hardly be surprised if he no longer can get into it.

I can sympathise with you in this. It was like reading my own story. I had a very similar life with my parents and siblings. I took responsibility for my mother at the end of her life and cared for her, but just before she died she turned on me in favour of her son. It ruined my lasting memory of my mother and since then I have cut him out of my life completely. In this instance I would change my own email and make sure he doesn't know about it. Beware of when your parents die, they really come into their own then. Take care.

I decided many years ago to cut all ties with one of my sisters as she was just a 'user' of people. I have never looked back as far as she is concerned. I don't miss her.
I do, however, miss my two nieces who decided to cut me off but I have to live with that and that is their choice. Maybe one day when they are older they may get in touch.
But I wouldn't change my decision. It has been so much easier without her in my life. Just because someone is family does not mean that we have to put up with their behaviour and if they are taking advantage or making your life stressful and there is no other way, then maybe have a think about whether you want that person in your life.

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its sounds to me he has guessed your password and the email was a try out to see could he access your email address from elsewhere.
Once you wrote you were about to have a Power of A. role for your parents I believe it was crystal clear what was happening.
He wants to know what you are up to with regard to the Power of A. and thinks your emails may tell him.
I think you should get a new email address and a password he cannot guess something really random. I would also update your security system on your computer and give it a couple of cleans on the system so there are no cookies or anything else on your system that you don't know about.
It is possible that he maybe accessing your computer from a distance.

First thing I would do would be to change my password on my email account. If he is using yours it means he can get into your account to read his replies and therefore read your emails too.
Secondly I would tell him that if it happens again you will contact the police and get him for digital fraud.
I know what it is like to have your good nature taken advantage of and that no matter how in the right you are people think you are in the wrong.

No proble., Change your password and don't let him know the new one. Don't write it down anywhere or save it, just remember it.
How old are you, donna1964 ? This sounds as though you and your brother are either very young or are still living with your parents, (or both).

Brothers can be a pest, particularly in their teens.

Frankly, I would not have told him that I knew he had been using my e-mail address. I would just change my password, and let him try to access it again - and again, and again. By the way, change the password you use for Facebook and other social sites, too, while you're at it. Or delete that e-mail account and start another, after changing the password, which would e even better; use a different spelling of your name, like rosy/rosie, or flower/flour...

Change your email and password - a bit of a 'fag' but worth it. As, presumably, he can access your emails there is also the issue of 'theft of intellectual property' which is a criminal offence.

There is something, I forgot what it's called but I am sure it has the word "key" in it, that allows another computer to record each keystroke you make. Maybe he installed that in your device.

Hello there
Just because you are related to people does not mean you have to like them or to respect them. Have nothing more to do with your siblings than you absolutely have to. Don't waste your happiness on trying to get them to be reasonable. It is great that you want to help your parents but just stick to small practical things that aren't going to involve you too much in the politics around them. You are a good and decent person. You don't need their approval. Leave them to get on with the mess they seem to need. In the case of the emails, just change your address to something that your family won't recognise and end the old account.

i know how you feel about not being listened to by the family i have had the same happen to me i am the oldest have 3 sisters and its happened all my life always wrong and big shouting matches
my mum passed away 13years ago and yes i miss her but things between my sisters and my self have improved also the fact that we have grown up and myself and another sister live away from the home area both 2hour drive in different directions.
as for your brother change your password so he can't use it again stay strong lots of love xx

Sorry if I sound stroppy, but you’re all advising her to change her password, et cetera, and I don’t think you’ve actually read her emails at all. Her brother simply gave her email address to someone else. This does not constitute a security problem, and it doesn’t mean he’s reading her emails or has got control of her email account. Changing her password will do nothing to stop him. If she changes her email address then she has to be very careful not to send him any emails or he can do exactly the same thing again. She should send anything that comes via him directly into spam, and clearly inform the sender that they are not to use her email address again.

It's amazing that as adults we still put up with rubbish that we had to deal with as children.
The saying that you can choose your friends but not your family is absolutely true.
Change your password as well as your email address to start off with. My worry is that if he has used your email for this one thing - what else has he used it for that you are unaware of?
I have to wonder if he has somehow hacked into your email account, but maybe that is my suspicious nature.
Any other emails, just block them - there is a dropdown under the "junk" along the top of the webmail page.

Azalea thanks. Oops sorry OP.

Ok, so your brother decided to use your email address, no doubt just to be difficult, but, that problem is easily solved by changing your password. I feel for you when you say your the only one who is there for your parents , I was the same as my sister didn’t want to know , but, while my sister has had to live with her conscious , my conscious is clear , and that means everything.
You sound a nice kind person , and very strong person also , which is good , so, just ignore your siblings , and do what you feel is the right thing to do , at least then at the end of the day you know that you did the right thing and your conscious will be clear . x

Just delete any emails intended for your brother and don't tell him about them. If they are confirmations about appointments etc. then he will miss them and that is his hard luck. Get a second email address for yourself for private matters and never use that for family correspondence.

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I wouldn't go back to your parents with any of this stuff. You know how they will react. Just don't go.there. Don't shout or argue with anyone. Just stand your ground and say no to your brother and mean it.

Change your email and password and that would put a stop to it . Also don't tell him you have done it ?

Perhaps he gave your email address so that you knew he was making an appointment? And the company responded to you rather than to him (or they may have responded to both of you separately or as BCC (where you cannot see who else has had the email). You have let the company know not to send anything to you and they are aware now not to use your email. I would leave it at that - unless you get more contact from the company. Why did your brother include your email - well, he might be doing it so that you contact him, or worry about him, or just to annoy you! There's no accounting for some people sadly!

As Azaelea99 says, is there any proOf he he reading the emails that arrive, or is he simply using the email address so he doesn’t get pestered by unwanted emails. Changing the password will do nothing to stop that. How big a problem is it?

donna1964
You say you and your brother are about to become POA for mother and father and that you both have to agree on any actions. That's good. Your brother can't do anything with their money that he will benefit from.

You also say you don't get on with your parents. You get the blame for things.
They had to have given their consent for you to become their POAs so they must have some trust in you.

Azalea99

Sorry if I sound stroppy, but you’re all advising her to change her password, et cetera, and I don’t think you’ve actually read her emails at all. Her brother simply gave her email address to someone else. This does not constitute a security problem, and it doesn’t mean he’s reading her emails or has got control of her email account. Changing her password will do nothing to stop him. If she changes her email address then she has to be very careful not to send him any emails or he can do exactly the same thing again. She should send anything that comes via him directly into spam, and clearly inform the sender that they are not to use her email address again.

I repeat what I said above - it’s probably just a ‘reply to all’ thing.

Geekesse if that's all it is, it's a very long OP...

Donna1964 it would appear you are under a lot of stress either real or imagined...so maybe a word lwith your GP would help you.I do hope you can get some peace of mind .