AmberSpyglass
I know - it just feels like there’s a level of expectation there which is totally understandable and not intended to be pushy at all. It sounds nice, it’s something I’d like in that position! But an increasing emphasis across the board on colleagues being friends and family is, I think, really unhealthy and often leads to toxic workplaces. It’s not easy to turn down the offer to socialise from your boss and even if the OP would never penalise her for not joining them, it still puts the housekeeper in a tricky position.
Fair point.
I just like everything to be nice and lovely, totally unrealistically, usually.