Over the last three years we have been on five big (i.e. over a week) holidays with another couple. This has been when Covid has allowed.
We last went away with them in October last year for two weeks abroad.
Since then they have had two holidays on their own and we have had one. This is mainly because they had pre booked time off and made a late booking.
I prefer to go on holiday just with my DH as I find it too stressful going away with others. We don't always want to do the same thing but end up doing what they want just for an easy life.
I did post about this situation twelve months ago. Here is the link.
www.gransnet.com/forums/aibu/1305382-Holiday-with-another-couple.
They had mentioned recently going away with us again later this year.
However, long story short, I have booked a holiday for just me and DH. We hadn't told them as we were worried about how they would take it.
They have now asked us if we want to book something so I had to confess that we have already booked.
Well, she has gone mental, saying that she is upset and disappointed with me as we more or less said we would go with them.
I said I was worried about telling them as I was worried that it would cause this reaction.
In fairness, I shouldn't have been such a wuss and told them we were going on our own before I booked. However, if it had been the other way around and they had booked without telling us, I wouldn't have reacted badly at all.
My DH has spoke to her DH and he said she was fuming. This has all been by text.
I don't know if this is the last we will hear from them. I consider them friends but we always seem to fall in with them and what they want to do. I don't think they like going away on their own.
I know I should put my big girl knickers on but I really don't know how to make this right so that we don't fall out with them.
I am very non confrontational, which has got me in this position.
Any advice on what I should say if we meet face to face. I am feeling really anxious about this.
I know I need assertiveness training.
