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Ceesnan Sun 28-Aug-16 19:58:42

I'm hoping the power of GN wil solve a dilemma for my sister. Briefly, she has just found out that her ex husband died last year. He walked out 32 years ago and had no contact with her or his three daughters since then. The death notice spoke of a much loved Dad and Grandad, and my sister is wondering whether to try and make contact with his new family to fill in the gap between him leaving and his death. My feeling is leave well alone, but I can understand how she feels. Any opinions appreciated!!

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BlueBelle Mon 29-Aug-16 17:29:13

The same happened to me Ceesnan 3,7, and 10 not a birthday card not a christmas card not a penny and like your sister not a penny in the bank I left the children to make their own minds up, my eldest had a vague relationship, met him a few times with very little interest on his part and was disappointed every time, my son didn't even want his name spoken and my youngest met him once in 40 years. He has since died and nothing has changed.
If someone abandons you the abandonment doesn't improve when they die.

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