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Savannasnan Sat 13-Apr-19 17:59:04

Hi all this is my first post. My Daughter's first marriage didn't work out sadly. As an amateur photographer I took loads of photos of the wedding. My daughter is now with a new partner and they have a daughter. Our much loved granddaughter. My daughter destroyed all her old wedding photos. Understandably as he cheated on her. But I still have my photos in an album. I have chucked any photos of my ex SIL but kept photos of my daughter and her Dad. My MIL has sinced passed away but is in a group photo. My dilemma is should my granddaughter find album would she be confused that her Mum is with another man or should I just bin it? My daughter did look lovely and had a horse and carriage. All documented in my album.

Craftycat Sun 14-Apr-19 11:46:09

I kept mine. I thought the DGC would like to see them- give them a laugh anyway! What possessed me to have that up-do- well it was very much the 'thing' then!
But to be fair I do get on very well with my first husband & we see each other a lot at GC parties etc- he even gets on OK with Hubby no 2 now- it took a while.

Marieeliz Sun 14-Apr-19 13:03:04

This problem has just occurred for me but slightly different. My brother's first marriage photo's are up in my loft which I am clearing in the hope of moving soon. My brother died in 2010.

After his marriage broke up he gave me the album probably because there are some lovely photo's of me and my late Mum on them. I was wondering what to do with them as neither he nor myself have children. I will hang on to it though as the photos of me and my Mum are lovely.

grannybuy Sun 14-Apr-19 13:52:08

I too have kept DD1's first wedding pictures, though none of the husband. She hasn't told her DD's ( fifteen and twelve) of that marriage. They are not children of that marriage. I will keep them anyway.

Saggi Sun 14-Apr-19 16:55:33

It’s part of your daughters history. Keep them. She might regret her decision to bin her own photos.

sharon103 Sun 14-Apr-19 18:25:53

Please keep the photos. I married in 1975 divorced 1997. In my anger, he left me for someone he worked with, I put all of our many photos with him on and my wedding album and ring in a bin bag and gave them to him. Oh how I've regretted it!. My adult children, 44, 40 and 35 years would have loved to have seen them. Me too to be honest. All of my aunties, uncles, nan, mum, dad and a few friends have died. Ex has said in the past that he gave the album to his mum and she burnt it lol. Mum and dad had some of our wedding photos but they tore them up. Do keep them.

Urmstongran Sun 14-Apr-19 21:25:58

I’d keep them. As my dear mum used to say ‘they don’t eat anything’. (Meaning I think - they won’t cost you anything).

Once they’re gone, they’re gone!

Apricity Sun 14-Apr-19 23:06:02

Wedding photos and memorabilia are part of a person and a family's story so don't discard them but sometimes how they are are displayed may need to be considered as life inevitably moves on.

When one of my daughters was meeting family members of the new man in her life she was greeted by a very large framed wedding photo of him and his ex wife in the entrance hall. It had been removed at her next visit.

My other daughter found herself drinking wine from a glass engraved with the names of her fiance and his ex wife, a momento from his first wedding.

Aepgirl Mon 15-Apr-19 07:37:36

Photographs are a lovely record of past events. I still have my wedding photographs, even though my marriage sadly ended some years ago, because they have pictures of friends and family all together, sharing a lovely day. The album is safely ‘out of sight’ of anybody but me, but I often get it out to reminisce.

Nanamar Wed 05-Feb-20 18:57:20

Thanks for this comment. Just learned a day ago that son and his wife are divorcing. I’m heartbroken especially for my four year old grandson. Sat in my living room yesterday, where their wedding photo is displayed in all its glory along with their album and many photos of the three of them and the five of us all together - and cried. Have to get myself sorted out I know but the simple dilemma of what to do with the photos paralyzed me. So will continue to keep out the ones of the family since they’ll always be my grandson’s parents as we’ll always be his grandparents and will ferret away the wedding ones.

Scentia Wed 05-Feb-20 19:11:53

I kept photo’s of my DH first wife just to show my DC when they were older. The first wife shaped the DH/DD we all know and it was important to not erase his past. We looked at them not long ago and he we were saying how pretty she was, and she was (but then so was I 35 years ago?)
Don’t completely erase her mum’s past but be sure they your DD knows they exist.x

Daisyboots Wed 05-Feb-20 19:48:21

When moving abroad I went throyghallmy photos and took out those photos that really only meant anything to me and gave the rest and the wedding album from my first marriage to my eldest DD. She and other siblings had a lovely afternoon going through the photos which brought back many happy memories for them. They decided to keep the albums as they were but the loose photos and slides slides my DD had printed and shared them out. If I had taken them with me they may have been lost when whoever clears out our home when we die. Better for them to have them rather than that.