I had four grannies and grandads and the only one I was wary of was the one who was a bit possessive and wanted to be the the most important, special granny.
I did sense this even as a small child and couldn’t talk to her naturally about things I enjoyed with the other grandparents. As I got older I resented having to filter what I told her and almost apologise for loving other grandparents. In the end she was the one I had least contact with - it was too much of a strain. She wasn’t nasty, just perpetually ‘hurt’.
The grandparents who lived abroad, who I didn’t see until I left school, I adored because they were so positive and rejoiced in everything I did, even though they had no physical part in it. Only now do I appreciate just how loving and emotionally generous they were.
Be careful OP. If you try to be the one and only and make your feelings clear to those around you, it may backfire on you.
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