I am a carer for my Mother who is 95 in September. She is registered blind, asthmatic and now arthritic, but she is a wonderful person and never gives in to her conditions. I have been with my mother for all my life other than 4 years when I was married, part of my maritial life was spent living with my parents, I am now nearing 70, so it is a very long time.
I am still her little girl and she still tells me what to do, at times it does get under my skin because I have no privacy, she even comes to the toilet to me to see where I am!!! I feel very guilty about feeling like this as she has been wonderful over all the years I have been there, but this mother and little girl syndrom has always existed, she is a very strong minded woman, a Matriarch in fact,
I moved house with her to be by my sister for help and support, but then I found that she was telling me what to do and telling me how to behave with mom.
I quickly went downhill very fast, wound up going to relate, but things really got worse and there was an eruption, which involved my family.
I am now on antidepresants, but because of the mega blow up, my sister has now backed off and things are now getting better with my family.
I cannot go anywhere without my mother except one night for skittles (a more recent activity), but she does not like being alone (and really who can blame her).
My Grandchildren are my saving grace, I am trying to move closer to them as they live quite a way away, I have them school hols, as daughter works.
I have started a topic, The wonder of being a Grandmum (Nanny)
The same applied to me re; carers allowance.
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