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condolences to neighbours

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Markoni40 Wed 16-Dec-20 14:03:41

We have an older pair of neighbors with whom we are not very close. At max we would say hi when we see them. We've just seen that gentlemen sadly passed away. How would you offer your condolences? Thank you for your help

Newatthis Thu 17-Dec-20 16:09:23

Send a card. Some people cross the street when they see the bereaved as they don't know what to say this is the worse thing anyone can do, if this happens just offer you condolences and help if you want to.

nipsmum Thu 17-Dec-20 16:17:01

One of my near neighbours lost his wife this time last year. I sent a condolence card and offered my verbal condolences when I next saw him. That's all that's required I think.

PollyDolly Thu 17-Dec-20 16:39:02

It's nice that you have sent a condolence card, and do make sure to mention the loss to other neighbours too, they may have been close and due to Covid could be a little out of touch.

However, do be mindful on offering practical help; my OH and I have been well and truly taken for granted in a similar situation!

Daddima Thu 17-Dec-20 16:46:47

I think the card was a nice thing to do, and, as others have said, nice to offer condolences in person when you meet.
I think women are usually less in need of practical help, but maybe handing in a cake or something later on would be appreciated.

Greciangirl Thu 17-Dec-20 17:31:38

When my husband died fifteen years ago, our g.p at the time very kindly posted a sympathy card saying how much he admired my husband.
I was very touched that he took the time to do that.
I still have the card today.

Doubt very much If we would get the same response now.

BusterTank Thu 17-Dec-20 17:51:25

Put a card through the door .

ReadyMeals Thu 17-Dec-20 18:09:27

One other thing I have started to do lately, when there has been a bereavement or other disaster in a person's life is as part of the next time I chat to them I just ask "are you coping ok?" Just in case it's the person's first opportunity to tell someone they're not! If nothing else some encouragement to seek help can then be offered.

Shropshirelass Sun 20-Dec-20 09:35:35

A card with a little note inside with your phone number, offering help if they need it.

Daddima Sun 20-Dec-20 12:33:47

BusterTank

Put a card through the door .

Markoni has already put a card through the door.