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Eggshells

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Madgran77 Wed 11-Dec-19 18:21:56

So often I see references to people "walking on eggshells" to maintain relationships. Often they reference a fear of estrangement that keeps them doing it, even though they feel annoyed at being in that position.

Over time there have been posts from AC who say that they tread on eggshells with their parents and posts from Parents who say they tread on eggshells with their AC. Some have said that they have ended up estranged and are glad that the eggshell treading has gone.

Basically anyone who is treading on eggshells to maintain a relationship is not able to be themselves in that relationship. Is it worth it?

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Summerlove Thu 12-Dec-19 23:21:31

I’d agree normally, but in already tense situations, as you know, if someone is predisposed not to listen (or has designated the upset person as a problem person), no amount of rational is going to work, and they’ll be accused of being an over sensitive trouble maker

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Smileless2012 Thu 12-Dec-19 23:25:10

Yes I agree with you there Summerlove

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Starlady Fri 13-Dec-19 11:32:52

Agree with you both, Smileless and Summerlove. In some situations, two people (or two couples) just get to a point of no return.

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Summerlove Fri 13-Dec-19 12:32:41

They really do Starlady. I think the only thing you can do at that stage is back off.

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Smileless2012 Fri 13-Dec-19 13:15:25

Accept that the relationship is over and move on with your life. The only thing you achieve from banging your head against a brick wall, is a headache.

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