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Female ageism

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widgeon3 Mon 17-May-21 12:59:47

I am in my 80s, with wrinkles aplenty, white haired and snaggle toothed but still very aware and compos mentis I also speak clearly and, I think concisely
Where am I represented in the media?. Why do we disappear off the radar when we achieve a certain age, whatever that be?
Ancient wrinkled or indeed imperfect-looking men can read the news and comment on events with some gravitas. Why not me or someone like me? Are we considered to be too effete? (= worn out by childbirth originally)
Upon visiting Germany in the 1970s I was amazed to see an elderly woman with straggly long grey hair ( Like Mary Beard's but tied back) reading the news. My German was poor but, too my great surprise, she spoke so clearly that I was able to get the gist of the news
I had always considered that the point of speech was to convey information. Here in the UK, the people who have learned their English in foreign parts are often, on television, able to convey an understandable message in clear English, the indigenous are sometimes far less comprehensible

Doodledog Wed 19-May-21 22:17:32

That's true, Baggs, but as you say, you surround yourself with all sorts of different sources - a lot of people don't. If all you see is one representation (which I know you don't) then it would be difficult not to think that people in groups with which you don't mix socially are as represented on TV.

A diet of ITV3, for example, would do very little to broaden anyone's horizons, and it is clearly aimed at older people, as can be seen by all the ads for walking frames, stair lifts, incontinence aids and so on.

CanadianGran Wed 19-May-21 22:53:55

One thing that I have noticed that really bothers me is the news calling a woman a grandmother on a human interest story.

One headline in the news:
"Grandmother named 1st female chief of --- First Nation'
The woman has a Bachelor's degree in Social Work, and was the Director of Health for her area. If the person elected was a male, would the fact that he was a grandfather be mentioned? No, not at all!

I hear this all the time, and it really burns me.

M0nica Thu 20-May-21 06:34:03

Baggs I was thinking of popular media, newspapers, main internet news sources - BBC, Sky etc. Read more targetted and informed sources and yes, they are improving, but you only need to read (or listen) to those coy children, or interviews with teenagers and those in their 20s and their ideas of what on old person looks like, can do and thinks, is depressingly negative and stereotyped

Granmarderby10 Mon 19-Jul-21 09:07:56

Is there a television producer out there who will rise to the challenge and dump the stereotypes. Someone has to be the first. Ideas/suggestions?
I’ll go first then: woman past childbearing/possibly reluctant grandparent, not necessarily though. Intelligent, humorous, a few health problems, sympathetic, social conscience, lifelong feminist and not on a permanent slimming diet, a bit lonely sometimes, but not desperate and not afraid to go to the pub/holiday un accompanied. There you can have that, go create wink

Gabrielle56 Tue 31-Aug-21 09:53:25

varian

The point about Brenda Blethyn as Vera was that she portrays a successful detective- who could be a man or a woman of any age (maybe over 25). The point is that she is not just portraying an old person with old person's issues

The point was that Brenda blethyn at THAT age would not be on the force!!! Good bad or indifferent may her detection skills be. I adored the portrayal of Jane Tennyson by Helen mirren and that was in 1991!!! It was realistic that a woman of her age experience etc would hold that elevated rank and so very accurate, one of the very few cop shows we could watch without cringeing and turning off! (Ex job!)

M0nica Tue 31-Aug-21 10:46:01

It is amazing how quickly diversity has been taken up since the The Black Lives Matter campaign started. Suddenly actors from all ethnic communities can be seen much more frequently in the media.

Why has the same not happened to older peopl? There are more of us and we have been here for a long time.

Doodledog Tue 31-Aug-21 10:58:12

I think that if we got too het up over inaccuracies like that, there would be no drama on TV at all?.

It's true that Vera would have been pensioned off, but you could say the same about Morse - even Lewis was hauled out of retirement. Liberties have to be taken, or the programmes would be more like documentaries.

I can't remember many of the details, but I once went to a fascinating lecture given by a police forensic scientist. She was half amused and half exasperated by the portrayal of things like the speed with which tests came back from labs, but as she said, the story would be slowed right down if they did it in 'real time'.

I see things like Vera's age as a bit like that. We just suspend disbelief in order to enjoy the story. At least it's a positive representation of older age.

M0nica Tue 31-Aug-21 13:37:39

It applies to everything. DS is an archaeologist and archaeological miseries used to whine because Time Team , didn't show the months of preparation before a site was filmed or all the post excavation, fromback filling the tranches etc to publishing the report.

They seem to forget that the purpose of tv is to entertain and that means cutting corners and speeding things up, providing they do not get things badly wrong, so what.

There is also the immense amusement those in the know in a subject get when watching it dramatised on tv.

eazybee Tue 31-Aug-21 15:50:24

Sheila Hancock is gamely jumping on and off canal boats, as well as steering them, still working as herself, and she is 88 to Gyles Brandreth's 73.

Kandinsky Tue 31-Aug-21 16:07:06

Generally speaking, people like looking at fairly attractive people on TV - Nature as it is, means your average 80 year old isn’t particularly attractive so tv bosses don’t want them. Plus, it’s very hard, demanding work, so they’re probably not up to the physical challenges.

sodapop Tue 31-Aug-21 19:43:48

That annoys me as well Canadiangran why is that more important than her other achievements grrrrr

M0nica Tue 31-Aug-21 20:13:57

Yes, but it is only cherry-picked already famous older stars that get on TV. What about all those ordinary older actors jsut doing bit parts and in the back ground or starring in something which isn't aimed at the elderly market and on elderly issues.

I admit Ian Mckellen as Hamlet has not been a great success, but there must be a middle way.