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Husbands who cook ??‍?

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lemongrove Sun 03-Feb-19 20:00:37

Whenever we watch an Escape To The Country the husband always seems to be saying that he is the main cook, and needs a big kitchen to bash the pots and pans around.
My DH cooks once a week usually, and even that seems to be unusual amongst my friends, who’s DH’s never do more than prepare a sarnie.Do yours regularly take over the kitchen and make several meals a week? Lucky you, if so.envy

Overthehills Mon 04-Feb-19 20:52:02

DH does the shopping, makes bread and marmalade. He cooks at least once a week. His repertoire is a bit limited but I’m grateful. He’s been know to serve a meal with five different veg - he likes his veg!

broughton Mon 04-Feb-19 21:14:12

Dh often cooks (usually decide what together ), frequently clears up and does ironing and his share of the housework. His mother brought him up to do chores. She did a great job. We both used to work very long hours and share childcare so it is fair that we both share household tasks.

LinAnn52 Mon 04-Feb-19 21:26:00

My DH never cooks, and is happy to leave all meal planning to me. However, he does all the clearing up after meals, leaving the kitchen nice and tidy, and is very good at helping with general housework.

lemongrove Mon 04-Feb-19 21:34:24

Lucklegs the kind of men who can’t boil an egg will probably be hunting for wife number two I guess.grin
In the end, very few widowers starve.

lemongrove Mon 04-Feb-19 21:36:38

My cousin once returned late from a shopping trip with friends ( about 3 pm) and her pretty useless in the house DH said that he was glad she was home as he was getting very hungry ......he hadn’t even made himself a sandwich.

SueDonim Mon 04-Feb-19 21:40:47

My Dh has always cooked. In the early years it was sausage and mash type meals but his repertoire has expanded since then! We've always shared making meals and even if I'm cooking he'll help with preparing ingredients.

When I broke my leg five years ago he had to take over doing everything, apart from folding clean laundry, which was all I could manage for a while. He's always been self-sufficient, due to having been in the armed forces, so he's good at making a plan with military precision!

narrowboatnan Mon 04-Feb-19 21:57:39

I’m not allowed to cook! Having had to have the fire brigade out twice early on in our marriage it was decided that DH would do the cooking. He pays attention to what he is doing and has never, as I did, tried to flambé a set of plastic kitchen scales (resulting in fire engine number 1). I rustle up sandwiches and do a pretty good beans on toast, boiled, fried, poached or scrambled egg and, as long as I set the timer so I don’t burn anything I do enjoy baking. But dinners are his province. It’s safer that way.

Nanny41 Mon 04-Feb-19 22:19:39

Mine usually makes the evening meal, the snag being he always chooses the meal. He leaves the saucepan and frying pan for me to clean and the cooker is always left in a mess, he says I do it better!!

Newquay Tue 05-Feb-19 05:53:03

I don’t enjoy cooking at all but DH does so he prepares most meals for which i’m very grateful although, given the choice, I would be more a veggie/fish person but DH loves his meat and is hurt if I don’t!
I know a chap whose wife puts ingredients before him every other evening for him to cook their evening meal. Brilliant idea I think like us ladies learning all the other skills too so we can manage. I can see from others bereavement/divorce is hard enough without not being able to shop/cook/wash/maintain a home. It’s probably a generational thing too

BradfordLass72 Tue 05-Feb-19 06:54:12

The Bradford Lad was a great cook as are both our sons.

The younger one is the main cook in their home with dreams to retire into catering one day. His partner can cook and does sometimes but doesn't love it, so she willingly leaves it to him.

When he was 18 and flatting with 5 girls, the conversation in the TV room included, 'Oooh, I could just eat a slice of chocolate cake.'
In less than an hour he was putting said cake on the table. grin

Harris27 Tue 05-Feb-19 08:38:33

Occasionally to impress me ha ha! But what a mess he makes he does work long hours and I kind of think of myself as a younger Mary berry!!so we work well together he does so nice sarnies though!!!

BigMxx3 Tue 05-Feb-19 10:44:15

I'm very lucky my DH loves cooking and it's usually a fight for me to get anywhere near the kitchen, I've become he's prep chef!

Rufus2 Tue 05-Feb-19 11:56:21

stick something in the microwave or make some toast, surely?
Luckylegs; Of course it is! I do it all the time. After reading this thread to find out how to better myself, I'm now suffering a severe inferiority complex. sad My family are always reminding me I can't cook; didn't have to; my dear Vera was an expert. Both sons come home to cook after slogging all day at work; their Aussie wives don't seem to do much. What's the world coming to? confused

One American in three is heavier than the other two

Kernowflock Tue 05-Feb-19 12:41:01

I rarely cook as DH works part-time and is a great cook, whilst I work full-time and do not enjoy cooking, though I do bake.
When our 2 DS were at home the rule was... first one in cooks. All others clear up. Now in their 30's they always cook, and are very good.

petra Tue 05-Feb-19 16:25:12

I don't cook and don't food shop, OH loves cooking and entertaining, and quiet enjoys food shopping.
He even makes sure that the freezer has all I need to eat when he has his jollies with the boys smile
But i do like housework, gardening and painting ( house that is)

Jalima1108 Tue 05-Feb-19 19:49:17

i do like housework
I think I need to come and feel your forehead petra, perhaps you need a lie down

Rufus2 Wed 06-Feb-19 00:00:52

He's always been self-sufficient, due to having been in the armed forces
Sue; So have I, but what's that got to do with domestic cooking?
Hope he's still not cooking army cook-house style! You'd have him on "jankers" in no time! grin

Blondiescot Wed 06-Feb-19 10:06:04

I do most of the cooking in our house - mainly because I enjoy it - but OH certainly isn't useless and can turn his hand to making a meal if he has to. However, he did once decide to make soup - never again! He chucked in a whole load of veg from the garden, including vast quantities of Brussels sprouts. The result was a khaki-coloured foul-smelling concoction that the rest of the family refused to eat. He, on the other hand, couldn't bear to admit how awful it was and forced himself to eat the whole pot!

sodapop Wed 06-Feb-19 10:37:36

Hate to think of the end result of that pot of soup Blondiescotsmile

Twinflower Sat 02-Mar-19 17:37:54

My husband adores cooking, it was the same when we both worked. And we still like to make something in kitchen together sometimes.

Nanabilly Sat 02-Mar-19 18:16:24

I've not read all of the posts as I'm getting more jealous by each post.
My husband is bloody useless in the kitchen ..he never preps or cooks food not even a sandwich or even if I'm ill.
I taught him how to do a few simple things when kids were smaller and I worked late evening shifts but he's never kept it up. He used to iron too but since I stopped work due to ill health he does nothing ... Zilch!!
I would love for him to just make me lunch one day , just a nicely made sandwich would suffice.
He knows how I feel and I tell him often but he still does not do it.
I've now given up but have stopped doing things he enjoys as payback. Ie baking his favourite cakes or pics . And as for cooking his favourite dinners..no chance. It all sounds very nasty when I read It but honestly it's not .

Nanabilly Sat 02-Mar-19 18:17:43

#puds not pics.

GrannyIris5 Sat 02-Mar-19 18:22:35

My hubs can cook a full english the results of which are measured by his waist size. He can cook chops, sausages and steak but would never cook a roast.

lemongrove Sat 02-Mar-19 20:49:55

Nanabilly your DH needs a serious talking to!
Get him to read all this thread??

GrannyGravy13 Sat 02-Mar-19 21:01:49

MrGG13 has just cooked Piri piri prawns (starter), venison steaks, dauphinois potatoes, asparagus and green beans main. I have just cleaned kitchen and it wasn’t that bad.

I know I am lucky