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Another young lady who can’t control her mouth

(44 Posts)
holdingontometeeth Sun 02-Dec-18 12:04:27

Whilst hosting my grandson and his much younger 5 year old sister he complained to me that she had bit him whilst they were having a disagreement.
When I broached the subject with her she explained sincerely that it wasn’t her.
“ My mouth was open. My teeth did it. “
Bless.
I am sure that we all have such lovely explanations given in innocence from our little ones.

LullyDully Sun 02-Dec-18 12:59:02

Shouldn't be biting at 5 not bless.

polyester57 Sun 02-Dec-18 13:12:18

Is this a joke? A 5-year old biting her sibling and a gran turning it into "just such lovely innocence from our little one"? Surely not. Very young children tend to bite, usually because they do not possess the verbal means to defend themselves. They need to be told kindly but firmly not to do it. To laugh it off when they are five years old borders on the criminal.

FlexibleFriend Sun 02-Dec-18 13:40:22

It's no laughing matter and struggling to believe that you think it is.

EllanVannin Sun 02-Dec-18 13:58:19

It's bad news when a child of this age bites. Brat !

Anja Sun 02-Dec-18 14:05:07

Not funny! Not cute! Not something I’d boast about!

aggie Sun 02-Dec-18 14:09:12

Here she would be in isolation till she apologises and promises not to do it again , and treats withheld

M0nica Sun 02-Dec-18 14:12:19

She has obviously discovered that a quick smart response gets her out of trouble and is making the most of it.

No child should be biting at 5. They are old enough to know better. Smart remark or not, they would quickly have found themselves sitting somewhere thinking about for awhile and then apologising to her brother had I been the grandmother.

Is it possible OP meant to type 2 or 3 not 5?

Chewbacca Sun 02-Dec-18 14:13:30

I'd be tempted to do it right back to the biter. When she complains, tell her that it wasn't you who did it; it was your teeth. Don't think she'll repeat it.

Lynne59 Sun 02-Dec-18 16:21:36

Little madam. If one of my GC had done that (the youngest is 4), they'd be on the naughty step, and severely told off. If one of my own (now adult) kids had done that, he'd have had a smack on the legs.

oldbatty Sun 02-Dec-18 17:45:28

Fangtastic.

DanniRae Sun 02-Dec-18 17:49:57

Something tells me that the poster (boaster?) will now regret posting this?
Well I would!!!!

mcem Sun 02-Dec-18 18:29:44

However much I disapprove of biting I 'd never retaliate by biting back to teach a lesson.
A friend of mine once admitted to doing this and I was horrified!

lemongrove Sun 02-Dec-18 18:34:55

Pity that she wasn’t holding on to her teeth then holdingontometeeth
Even children of five do bite their siblings at times, but hopefully her Mother made such a big thing of it that she won’t do it again.
The biter bit?

holdingontometeeth Tue 18-Dec-18 10:17:33

Well, after reading your structured and comments obviously coming from the heart, I have began to look at my little granddaughter though different eyes.
Far from being a little Angel, I now realise that she is nothing more than a monster in the making.
After reading your suggestions, I realise that my grand parenting skills are sadly lacking.
When she visits next time, I will immediately smack her, bite her and shout at her, instilling so much fear in her that she wouldn't try to bite her strapping teenage brother again when he was being too rough whilst they were play wrestling.
I will also place her on the naughty step for 48 hours, without sustenance, just so that she can reflect deeply on her heinous actions.
I am just surprised that one of your ilk didn't suggest that I removed her teeth with a pair of pliers. This of course would solve the biting problem and, as one contributor suggested, her communication skills may be enhanced.
The terms "brat" and "little madam" have been used.
Another poster helpfully says, in referring to myself, that
"Something tells me that the poster (boaster?) will now regret posting this?
Well I would!!!!"
I am still trying to see how that remark has helped me in sorting out this little monster.
Perhaps they got carried away in the excitement of ridiculing a newish poster.
Not to worry.
What a judgemental lot you are. Are you really that smug that you think that I wouldn't mention that biting was wrong? There was not a mark on her brother, though by her own admission she tried to bite.
She wasn't aware that we found her explanation funny, though when we discussed it later I thought her explanation, in her innocence incriminating herself, was very well presented.
I would also point out that it is assumed that I am a Gran.
Are you stuck in such a time warp that you cannot accept that granddads are now readers and indeed contributors to this site.
I am a granddad, a very laid back loving one at that.
I started this thread hoping that others could post the funny comments that their young ones come out with, but instead it has appeared to feed those amongst the membership who choose to ridicule and denigrate those who have the audacity to post without having been long term members who have yet to gain the approval of the "inner circle", who think it is their sole right to post and woe betide those who don't fit into "their" guidelines.
My only regret about starting this thread is that I am now sincerely worried that some grandchildren, going off some of these posters, are open to being smacked, bitten and verbally intimidated.
I can now envisage some of you scampering to contact MNHQ to have this thread removed before the more moderate members can be aware of the comments of the minority.
I am well aware of the Thread titled "Infiltrated" so may I start off the conspirators theory passwords ONESIE PLIMSOLLS or any other word that comes to mind.
Ugh.

theretheredear Tue 18-Dec-18 10:46:22

Holdingontomyteeth, what a fantastic come back! grin

harrigran Tue 18-Dec-18 10:52:00

hmm

janeainsworth Tue 18-Dec-18 10:55:56

Sorry hotmt but I am one of the cynical ones who assumed that far from inviting other ‘funny’ stories, you posted your tale of your GD biting her brother with the intention of provoking the outraged responses that it did indeed provoke, so that you could then act all injured and accuse the general GN membership of being judgemental old bags.

We’ve seen it all before.

DoraMarr Tue 18-Dec-18 11:04:07

I’m sorry your post got such a negative response. I think it was a reaction to “bless” that surprised some posters. No- one had any background to the post, so we don’t know if the biting was a one-off, or was a frustrated response to teasing by her brother, and we don’t know the obviously very bright little girl who said it. I’m sure as parents and grandparents we’ve all had to tell off children while trying desperately hard to be serious when we really want to laugh. Once, when I was teaching, the seven year olds in our year were having to rehearse “In and out the Scottish bluebells” for what seemed the millionth time. Two little boys were overheard singing “In and out thef***ing bluebells.” We had to tell them off, but we were a bit fed up with the f* bluebells ourselves, and it was very difficult not to laugh. I suspect, from what you have written, that this was a similar case. I’m sure your granddaughter has said lots of funny things; perhaps you will come back and share them with us.

holdingontometeeth Tue 18-Dec-18 11:13:17

Thanks for the reply janeainsworth
Regulars are looking for badness in new posts now without seeing the bigger picture, as is evident on the thread "Infiltrators*
I am thick skinned so I wont cower to those who wish to conduct themselves in such a manner that many of the membership are reticent in posting.
Your last comment "judgemental old bags* is not one I apply to the general membership, but there are some who appear to wear the badge with pride.
Apology excepted.
Regards.
theretheredear Thank you.

holdingontometeeth Tue 18-Dec-18 11:25:47

DoraMarr Thank you. You are quite correct that posters jumped in without any background information but the comments, well, some of them were untoward to say the least.
My granddaughter was unaware that we were enthralled with her reply. She went away with the rightful impression ( no pun intended! ) that it was wrong to bite, or attempt to bite.
I envy Primary School teachers, moulding their little charges as they progress through their formative years, but as for Secondary School teachers, that is another matter! They deserve all the rewards that are available, not that I am saying that Primary School teachers don't.
A very noble profession.

holdingontometeeth Tue 18-Dec-18 11:31:40

The bless comment was made because in her innocence, in presenting such a well thought out reply instantly, she unwittingly incriminated herself.

Cherrytree59 Tue 18-Dec-18 11:39:13

The title of this thread has troubled me as much as content.

Another young lady who can't control her mouth
Who are the other young ladies???confused

Now I understand.

holdingontometeeth Tue 18-Dec-18 22:48:44

The thread I was referring to was titled infiltration

Cherrytree59 The other young ladies I referred to was a tongue in cheek reference to the offspring of members who take out their frustrations on their long suffering mothers.

phoenix Tue 18-Dec-18 22:54:49

Here we go again!

On a different topic, it's very breezy outside here.