After 25 yrs in the military and then several years of working in the hot desert, my husband finally retired. We wanted something different for our next chapter, so we sold our home, put everything in storage, said goodbye to our two boys and their families, my parents and the rest of our family, packed up our trailer, loaded up the dogs and took off traveling. I’ve always worked remotely, so it was an easy decision. We’ve been on the road about six months and decided to come back home to visit, but we found a little mountain town in an adjoining state that we fell in love with and want to move to. When visiting our youngest and his family, I asked them, if we moved out of state, would they come and visit and my DIL said it depends on what state and I can tell you now, that maybe we’d be up once every 3 or 4 years. Keep in mind that she drives 2.5 hrs each way, once a week so she can take the kids to see her parents. It’s always been about them, which as a mom of boys, I understand the different status to which I’m held. They moved over 2 hrs away, so we felt it was ok for us to do the same, but she feels that if we move out of state, we’re choosing not to be a part of their lives any longer. It’s hurtful, because we have done so much to help them, when needed and her parents did nothing. Now I have major guilt about leaving the state and my husband said he won’t be bullied and he still wants to move. I agree with him, but it’s still difficult to know what to do as a Grandparent, especially when our grandkids ask us to move by them. ?♀️
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