getting married again - having to take my first wedding ring off

Wear both? Make it into another item or wear it on a chain.

Swap hands?

shouldn't you take it off and be looking forward to the new one? maybe the indentation will lessen by then. It seems respectful to both DH and future DH.I think on a chain around your neck would be nice.

Why must you stop wearing it? I agree with the previous posters, just find another place to wear it.

willsandco As a man might I suggest that if your husband to be is a caring man, and I assume he is for you to be marrying him, I am certain he would not mind you wearing your first wedding ring on a chain around your neck. Your first husband did after all sadly pass away, it's not as though you divorced which would, I suggest, be totally different. From my perspective I would have no problem should a widow I proposed to accepted my proposal and wanted to continue having a memory of her dear departed. I would suggest it would be a sign of respect from both of you in addition to keeping a memory alive. You both after all have pasts which you can now share together. Just my humble opinion but offered in good faith.
Congratulations, and I hope you enjoy many happy years of your future lives together.

thank you all so much for your comments. ps: my new man is the most lovely guy and wouldnt mind at all if I put it on a chain but I am fearful of losing it. Tonight I have taken it off and placed it behind a photograph of him I have on the sideboard. Last week my fiance removed his wedding ring so I suppose I should follow! It is such a enormous step to take really as we both adored our previous spouses. It is just an item of such great sentimentality...............! Still, the memories live on in your heart, dont they?

Yes they do. I'm a widow of 10 years, I have not met anyone to replace him.
I think you are very lucky.
Enjoy your new life together and my very best wishes for you both!

I wish both of you sincere good wishes and you are right memories do live in the heart and nobody can take those from you.

thanks very much, Galen. I have been very fortunate. I wasnt really looking for another partner, I had nursed my husband through a chronic illness for over ten years and was just recovering from the anguish of losing him. He just came out of the blue really! I had known him 43 years before but had never gone out with him cos we always had other partners. If I had had to make a checklist of the qualities I wanted in a man, he would tick 95% of them - so when he asked me to marry him I didnt hang about really in case he changed his mind. We get on well, he is loads of fun, very caring, just lovely really. I have been really fortunate with the special men in my life! But even so, I dont like having to take my ring off at all - even though I know I have to! It really is a part of me!

The very best of luck to you both! Be happy!
I can't wish better.[smie]

I am so happy for the pair of you. Why do you not, as others have suggested, wear the ring on the opposite hand? You may lose it if it is on a chain around your neck.
Enjoy your new life together, good luck!

There are no "shoulds" about wedding ring wearing, only customs. Wear your old ring if you want to. It really is as simple as that. You can put your new wedding ring on the same finger or on your other hand.

Wearing a ring in memory of your dead husband is in no way connected to your new relationship, but it is part of your life. If you wish to keep a symbol of that on your finger, do so.

the ring wont fit my right hand - I tried it yesterday. I will have to speak to t'other half about it! I just really, really love this ring - it is quite individual, gold consisting of several gold leaves so I could never wear an engagement ring with it....and the sentiment, of course. I am moving in with him cos his house is bigger and I seem to be sacrificing so much of my other life, giving things away, selling stuff..... It just shows you how much things mean to you, I suppose. But it is a new relationship and I must be fair to him.

Your new ring will fit on the other hand. There is no obligation to wear a wedding ring on any particular finger. In some places the right hand is the norm.

When mine (ring not hand!) had to be cut off before surgery, I had it mended and then wore it on the right hand because that was less bony at the knuckle. It has never gone back onto the left hand, but on my left middle finger I wear my late husband's gold signet ring.

Your past life and marriage do not vanish because you have been lucky enough to find a second partner. No need to hide away the evidence of them.

I meant, wear your new wedding ring on your right hand and leave the old one where it is. You want to wear your old ring and wearing it is not unfair to anyone, so just do it. It's the getting married that is the contract, not what jewellery you choose to wear.

I don't wear a wedding ring. That doesn't mean I love my husband any less; it just means I don't like wearing rings. You like wearing your old ring because of happy memories, so wear it.

All the best .

Bags you are one of the very few people who I have come across who like myself do not wear a wedding ring,mine and my engagement ring are in my jewellery box and not been worn in a long time,I am of the opinion also that I do not need a ring to say I am married or love mr.glamma any the less.
All my very best wishes to you willsandco all your memories can move with you and be kept in that special place in your heart.

A good Jewellers might be able to set it as a brooch for you with a pin behind it or as a pendant.good luck in your new life

What about wearing both together on your left hand? The two loves of your life.
Good luck and much happiness to you both, I'm

bags and glamma I don't wear a wedding ring either ... never really have. It's in my bedside drawer. I sometimes wear rings on different fingers, depends what mood I'm in, my favourite is a hand beaten sterling silver ring I paid about £20 for years ago.

willsandco how lovely that you're getting married, warmest wishes to both of you for your new life.

As an aside - when I moved to the UK from South Africa in my early fifties (13 years ago), husband and I arrived with 2 suitcases each having given all our stuff away, very liberating. There was an informal settlement (a.k.a. squatter camp) across the road from us, and I will never forget the delight of the people who lived in shacks and had very little carrying off our stuff (we put it out on the verge for the taking). Now 13 years later, we have accumulated stuff again. It's just stuff. I have things of sentimental value, but they fit into one small suitcase. Some of my favourite things I gave to family, and now when I go back for a visit, I also "visit" my treasures.

willsandco congratulations, wishing you all the best for a wonderful future. Take it off, wear the other with pride and put the old one on a chain round your neck. My ring doesn't fit both hands either, my right knuckle is bigger .

A little while after my 1st husband died I had my my late mothers and my own wedding rings made into one and wore it on my right hand and still do after 5 years of marriage with DH 2.

nonnasusie what a wonderful way to carry your memories around with you.

I don't wear my wedding ring either, as I prefer silver jewellery,which in fact I wore before I was married.,I have a lovely ring which I had for silver anniversary which I wear on my left hand. I agree that you should wear both the rings on your wedding finger if they are both important. Wearing the first one on a chain could be difficult with other jewellery. Lots of women wear two or three rings on the same finger. he could always wear his first one too which might make you feel better.