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What age did you find love 2nd time around

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Kacee Mon 05-Dec-16 12:57:07

After 40 years and age 62 I find myself single again, not by my choice.

Do I just accept that this is it now and learn to get on with it or do I maybe look forward to meeting someone else.

What age and where did you find love 2nd time around?

Anya Mon 05-Dec-16 13:42:48

I'd not be looking for sure. I'd just get on with my own life and enjoy the advantages of being single.

Fish & bicycles??

Kacee Mon 05-Dec-16 13:48:04

Fish & bicycles.....am I missing something?

Anniebach Mon 05-Dec-16 13:52:12

People come into your life so don't be troubled about meeting someone. It takes time to adjust to being single, you my find as I did , being single can be great . I wish you peace X

Liz46 Mon 05-Dec-16 14:00:02

Age 46 and getting a divorce after being married for 25 years, the last thing that I wanted was another man. One walked into my life before my divorce was through and we have been together for about 24 years now. I was very lucky.

Kacee Mon 05-Dec-16 14:04:25

Thank you Anniebach. Peace is something I crave. I desperately want my OH back but he has moved on to a younger model.

I find living on my own very lonely

Jayanna9040 Mon 05-Dec-16 15:11:09

I was terrified of being alone, though it was death rather than divorce in my case. You don't say how recent this is but it does get better and often very enjoyable to be able to please yourself.
But if you really want another relationship don't think 62 is too old. Absolutely not!

Teetime Mon 05-Dec-16 15:21:39

Kacee I hope someone lovely does find you and makes you happy its nothing to do with age the best and happiest wedding I ever went to was a couple in their 80s. You are in your prime. Keep yourself well and positive and good things will happen. Best wishes flowers

Ana Mon 05-Dec-16 15:30:10

'A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle' Kacee! grin

Kacee Mon 05-Dec-16 15:39:56

Ana (grin)

Kacee Mon 05-Dec-16 15:41:01

Clearly I am as good at smileys as I am at holding on to a husband

Jayanna9040 Mon 05-Dec-16 15:43:31

Plenty of other smileys out there??? With a sense of humour like that you won't be single long?

f77ms Mon 05-Dec-16 15:51:10

Kacee things will get better , even though you cannot imagine it will just now . I LOVE being on my own but now have a `friend` I meet for coffee, lunch but have no desire to take things further . Join some clubs/ classes , do some voluntary work you will meet loads of lovely people . Don`t be in a hurry to find a man , if it is on the cards you will xx

tanith Mon 05-Dec-16 15:59:29

I was only 39 when I met my second husband having been married already 20yrs. He was a friend of my best friend and her husband so we met via my friend. We've now been very happily married for nearly 20yrs.
So it will get better as the others have suggested join things you are interested in and accept invitations to go out with your friends.

grannylyn65 Mon 05-Dec-16 16:02:05

So,Christmas comes round once again
I think I’ll shoot myself
Another year love’s passed me by
And I’m still on the shelf
I’m looking for a partner
A handsome man will do
[Be better if he’s nice and fit
If it’s all the same to you]
I’ve sent a note to Santa
To beg him hear my plea
That if he finds a single bloke
To send him straight to me
I promised I’d look after him
He’ll be my pride and joy
But if he can’t get one my age
I’ll take a nice toy boy!!

grin

tanith Mon 05-Dec-16 16:03:44

grannylyn65 grin

Anniebach Mon 05-Dec-16 16:07:24

Kaycee, stop blaming yourself for another's actions . Hope you have support of family and, or, friends X

Grannyknot Mon 05-Dec-16 16:08:57

kacee one of my best friends has had the following:

Adored husband no 1 but he was an alcoholic and led her a merry dance. He died young.

She married again in her late 50s to a man who had lied to her about his age (he was a lot older than she thought, she found out on the day of the wedding). He turned out to be a depressive. He died when she was 63.

She said "Okay, that's it" smile

She therefore wasn't looking whwn she met a wonderful man when she was 67, they've been together for 6 years now and she is "happier than I've ever been". He loves her, spoils her, and they have a terrific life. x

Lynnieg Mon 05-Dec-16 16:16:51

I was divorced after 23 years, got together with an old friend. That didn't work out either and I thought that was it really. I was 45.
Wasn't even looking and I met someone at work, we've been together 15 years and married for 12. I sometimes think I'd like to send a thank you card to the woman my first husband went off with because without her I wouldn't have met my Professor (for Little Women fans wink )
Oh and he's a toy boy too grannylyn

Don't go looking, love will come to you x

Kacee Mon 05-Dec-16 16:21:03

Grannylyn65. If I find a toy boy I will send him on to you.........when I have finished with him xx

grannylyn65 Mon 05-Dec-16 16:25:26

???

Anniebach Mon 05-Dec-16 16:28:33

I don't want to share the remote control

Ana Mon 05-Dec-16 16:34:07

Two tvs in different rooms? That's how my late DH and I avoided remote control arguments! wink

Anniebach Mon 05-Dec-16 17:00:46

Didn't think of that Ana.

Don't want to share my bed - all night , no room, my dogs, iPad, books, writing pad, killer suduko and the Nintendo, takes up a lot of room

Kacee Mon 05-Dec-16 17:14:31

I must admit I do quite like the bed to myself. I like being able to watch what I want when I want. I like being able to have ready meals all week. I like only using the washing machine once a week.

I do miss the company.