Daughter Vs Daaughters in-law

In ancient Greece (469 - 399 BC), Socrates was widely lauded for his wisdom.
One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance who ran up to him excitedly and said, "Socrates, do you know what I just heard about
one of your students?"
"Wait a moment," Socrates replied. "Before you tell me I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test." "Triple filter?" asked the acquaintance.
"That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my student let's take a moment to filter what you're going to say. The first filter is Truth.
Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"
"No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it."
"All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not.
Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my student something good?"
"No, on the contrary ...".
"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, even though you're not certain it's true?".
The man shrugged, a little embarrassed. Socrates continued." You may still pass the test though, because there is a third filter - the filter of Usefulness.
Is what you want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?"
"No, not really..."
"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?"
The man was defeated and ashamed. This is the reason Socrates was a great philosopher and held in such high esteem.......

It also explains why he never found out that his student, Plato, was having an affair with his wife.I

This may be a joke, but the 3 Filters is a good rule to follow before posting on Social Media, especially if you have a 'touchy' family!

SleepyGM

Hello Group new to forum.
I couldn’t wait to have grandkids they cane a little earlier then I thought
I retired early thought I would get a few year exploring things I wanted to venture into. Instead found out a few months after retiring that we were going to be grandparents still excited
Until they asked if I could watch and infant three days a week.
I have four grandkids at this point and helping with 3 of them and trying to make time for our Fourth one.
Exhausted from watching grandkids
I watch my grandson who is a toddler 3days a week. My granddaughter Tuesday overnight through Wednesday morning then I watch my grandson Wednesday all day. I pickup my other grandson every other Friday from school while watching my 2year old grandson. Then every other Thursday I try to go see my fourth granddaughter. I thought retiring early at 58 was going to be pleasurable
I worked full time all my life 50 plus hour a week and never felt so exhausted and anxious. I love them dearly but I feel like I have lost myself.
Just need to vent since my sister and friends refuse to watch there grandkids except on occasion.

Happy Easter crazyH - hope you and the family have a wonderful choclatey time.

'She's dieting' was a clue - no doubt she's cranky with hunger and chocolate cravings

I’d stay off group chats far too easy to get your words interpreted wrongly
I think it’s a very tight line to being in your adult kids lives to being IN your adult kids lives Take a step back and let the next generation enjoy or not enjoy their own chats

Such good news, crazyh! Glad everything was fine when you spoke to dd! She has probably gotten over it! Hope she accepts your invitation and that you have a wonderful time!

Or I should say, hope she "accepted" your invite, as today is already Easter. Hope you have a good Easter either way.

SleepyGM Sounds like you have accumulated child care by default. The time has come to sit down with your family and review what you are doing for them. Have a clear idea of how much time you would like to do things for yourself and how much you want to spend on child care. It's not unreasonable to expect to enjoy a social life of your own in retirement. Learn to say 'no' .

Yes, SleepyGM, I agree with sodapop. I know your ac or cil may get angry since they've come to count on you for childcare. They shouldn't, there's no rule that says gps "have to" mind children or how much. But still, they might. However, I think you need to say something for your own health and sanity's sake. They need to find someone else who can share some of the care, even if they have to pay someone some of the time.

Whatever happens, please remember that the 2-year-old will be in school in a few years and that will cut down some of your childcare. Idk if you can bear to wait that long for a change, however. Only you can know that.

Hope you can talk to the parents, that they are reasonable, and that it all works out!