Hi, looking for advice, we live in a quiet cul-de-sac with one close neighbour with whom we get on very well, it’s a couple in their eighties. We are a little younger but still retired when ever needed I help them with simple things that they have difficulty with and occasionally the husband will bring a bottle of wine round as a thank you which is much appreciated. Last week he invited my wife and I out for a meal which he insisted would be on him, his wife was going to be away so I’m not sure she was aware of the invitation, sadly we were going away for a couple of days and declined, the following day he brought round an envelope with a card and £40 to have a meal on him while we were away, he was insistent and would not be refused. The result is we feel very uncomfortable and think he feels he has to pay for our help, I’ve explained that I don’t want rewards for help but I guess he doesn’t want to feel like a “charity case”. I would like to return the cash but am concerned he may be upset and the last thing we want is to create an atmosphere. So how do I approach the situation?
Wait till he and his wife or son (who is very personable) are together and thank him again but make it clear that I was not comfortable but enjoyed a great meal
Ignore the situation but refuse further offers
Tell his wife
Have a quiet word with him letting him know my feelings of discomfort
Any advice most welcome
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