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Kaylamai06 Wed 09-Dec-20 19:44:52

My step daughter bought my partner (who is her father), a new watch for Christmas. It is by the same designer as the one I got him a couple of years ago. I’m upset. Am I overreacting?

MagicWand Thu 10-Dec-20 12:00:24

Personally I'd be more concerned that your DP thought it was fine to go ahead and open a parcel that was addressed to you! I've been married over 40yrs and Mr MW has never opened a parcel addressed to me, especially at this time of year!

Duplicate present from a couple of years ago, storm in a teacup. There's the potential for a lot more hurt and upset being felt by your stepdaughter if she didn't know he already had the watch she has carefully chosen for him.

icanhandthemback Thu 10-Dec-20 12:03:41

The sentiment about the watch you bought him is no less negated by your step-daughter's gift, it just shows that she appreciates you too. Unless there is a back history of her undermining you, I suspect it is an oversight on her part and you are probably overthinking things. Just laugh and suggest he wears one on each arm! Perhaps he could keep one for best or, as they would say down here, take turns's eaches!

Daisend1 Thu 10-Dec-20 12:17:15

By the same designer ?or just identical to the one you bought H.?
I agree with those who say some men like watches, as do some women. (myself included ) also like watches.

HurdyGurdy Thu 10-Dec-20 12:46:56

If someone bought you a pair of Cartier earrings, would you be offended if someone else bought you another pair, because you already own a pair? Wouldn't you rotate them and wear them both?

Same with a watch, I'd say.

So, yes, I think you are overreacting a bit.

Hithere Thu 10-Dec-20 13:03:16

How is your relationship with your stepdaughter, OP?

helen2020 Thu 10-Dec-20 13:04:41

did she buy you something nice?

helen2020 Thu 10-Dec-20 13:05:59

I have at least 5 watches but none are expensive I just like a change

grandtanteJE65 Thu 10-Dec-20 13:06:55

For your own peace of mind plus good family relations, please try to think of this as an oversight on your step-daughter's behalf rather than a snub to you.

Unless she makes a habit of deliberately buying her father the same things as you, it really is not worth bothering about.

TrendyNannie6 Thu 10-Dec-20 13:33:16

What makes you feel upset about the present of a watch, is it because it would have maybe cost her a lot of money, or the fact you might think she’s upstaging you, I don’t quite understand why you would over react, do you get on ok with your step daughter, I don’t see it as inappropriate, so I do think you are over thinking this

ReadyMeals Thu 10-Dec-20 15:28:21

If she has just told you and hasn't given it to him maybe she doesn't know he already has one. Tell her, and give her the change to exchange it for a different gift

Aepgirl Thu 10-Dec-20 16:41:55

Does she live with you? If not, perhaps she hasn’t seen him wearing the watch you bought him. Anyway, what does it matter? Don’t read too much into it.r

MrsThreadgoode Thu 10-Dec-20 17:43:07

I think there must be an underlying story as the OP has posted under Relationships and not Chat or Christmas.

harrigran Thu 10-Dec-20 18:10:08

I wouldn't give it a second thought. My DH likes good watches and has several the same make, as do I.

Shropshirelass Sat 12-Dec-20 09:33:25

Perhaps it is a compliment that she liked the brand that you had brought. Sounds like a lovely present to me and probably a coincidence anyway.

Patsy70 Sun 13-Dec-20 17:44:31

confused

Oldbat1 Sun 13-Dec-20 17:51:49

Life is too short to worry about such things. We don’t even give presents now to each other.