Smacking children

kwest

Smacking is a complete lack of control on the part of the parents. It is always wrong. If you would not hit another adult with a weapon then it is a total misuse of power to do that to a child. No excuses. It is wrong.

It is not always 'complete lack of control on the part of the parents'.
What nonsense.
I already explained back in the thread how we smacked my little daughter once because she kept putting stones in her mouth, which was obviously very dangerous. She had been repeatedly told and definitely knew it was wrong, so she got a smack and was told she would get another one if she did it again, which she never did. That was certainly not 'lack of control' on our part or 'misuse if power', it was a decision. Your comment shows a blinkered attitude.

However I have no idea where they get their sense of right or wrong from but probably fair to say they aren't in a good place to teach their children right from wrong

People develop their moral code from many different sources!!

Chestnut

kwest

Smacking is a complete lack of control on the part of the parents. It is always wrong. If you would not hit another adult with a weapon then it is a total misuse of power to do that to a child. No excuses. It is wrong.

It is not always 'complete lack of control on the part of the parents'.
What nonsense.
I already explained back in the thread how we smacked my little daughter once because she kept putting stones in her mouth, which was obviously very dangerous. She had been repeatedly told and definitely knew it was wrong, so she got a smack and was told she would get another one if she did it again, which she never did. That was certainly not 'lack of control' on our part or 'misuse if power', it was a decision. Your comment shows a blinkered attitude.

It’s exhausting saying the same thing over and over again isn’t it?

No it’s not ok to smack. Doesn’t even work as a deterrent or punishment. Doesn’t create respect, only fear. Sadly there’s a little girl in my daughter’s class whose mum is a fan of smacking and I don’t know if mum is aware of just how horrible her daughter can be to her classmates. Of course, she might just be a horrible child!

We moved back to Wales a few years ago. About a month or so afterward ,we were in a town where there are a lot of Welsh speakers. A young woman walked past us with two young girls. 3to 5 years old. She was screaming at one in Welsh and then smacked her across her legs. Then continued to shout. It was really horrid, possibly as we could not understand what she was saying. Never forgotten it.

My BIL smacks his son. He says he was smacked and it never did him any harm. Well yes BIL, it taught you that it is ok to hit a small child. I disagree.

My late mom came from a well to do family. Smacking didn't happen. When she was pregnant with me she read the Dr Spock book and smacking was advocated then.

Dr Spock had changed his mind by the end of his day's on smacking.

I have 4. 3 born in the 80s. They got the occasional smack. My youngest born in 1996 was never smacked. Thinking was changing then.

Mine don't smack their children. I don't agree with smacking and wish I hadn't mine now. They know that. They don't hold it against me

Each generation of parents, parents differently because it's a different world

Callistemon21

*"Ok, so you just hit someone and hurt them. That's very wrong so now I'm going to hit you"*

No. Its "that what it felt like to Susan when you hit her. You didn't like it when you got hit did you. No? So don't do it again "!!!

We did not smack our children ever. I was smacked very occasionally as a child. I have no recollection of how I felt about it at the time to be honest

This is a very old thread.
I disagree with the premise of your post Primrose. An adult hitting a child to demonstrate it’s wrong, is exactly that - wrong. It’s an assault.

Children in Wales and Scotland have the same legal protection against assault as adults, and the sooner England follows the better.
Why do people think “smacking” is not an assault I wonder?

I was hit (why do we say smack, its hitting, its violence) as a child and I knew that if i had children I would never use violence as a 'correction tool'... and i didn't, I'm 73 now and my children were praised for their behaviour, their kindness, their ability to share and empathy and of course their anti-violence standpoint... 3 of them are kind, considerate beings and they too would not hit a child. They are far from perfect but good human beings.