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A romantic proposal of marriage.

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Yammy Mon 09-Jan-23 16:31:32

If you have been proposed to was it romantic and did you accept?
I have been proposed to twice in my life {not boasting] once after a whirlwind romance. It took part on a dark night in the middle of a foot bridge over a lovely river. With spires and medieval buildings all around us.The perfect setting and the promise of a life of bliss.
The other was after a ball. Three sheets to the wind in a long dress and high heels,I was challenged to balance along a long low wall outside a public building and promised a ring the next day, I said I would try if the proposer did first and succeded.
Which do you think I accepted?wink

Redhead56 Mon 09-Jan-23 21:28:42

I was getting divorced and had two little children. I met a friend I had not seen for some years.
He proposed to me on holiday on one knee presenting a beautiful engagement ring.
We did plan to marry in a couple of years but three months later we were married twenty seven years ago.
This marriage life has been good although after my divorce I swore I wouldn't marry again. Life is full of surprises.

Alioop Mon 09-Jan-23 22:36:49

I accepted my 1st one, then called it off as I thought I was too young. I then declined a 2nd one from another guy and finally accepted a 3rd proposal in my parents lounge which I accepted. He had a ring which was huge and not what I would of chosen at all, plus my dad was fuming as he hadn't asked his permission like the others. The marriage was a disaster, I left him and I have had one date since then and just decided it's not for me, I don't trust anyone any more.

dragonfly46 Mon 09-Jan-23 22:42:41

I prevaricated for a long time with my first proposal as I knew it wasn’t right.
My second was a very sexy Italian that I met on holiday and I am not sure he was serious.
Third time lucky and we have been together for 57 years!

Kate1949 Mon 09-Jan-23 22:54:27

My husband proposed to me and I said yes. We've been married 54 years this year. Ups and downs obviously. When we had been married about three years, a friend told me he was in love with me (he also told my husband who was furious understandably). He asked me to go away with him. Obviously I didn't although he was incredibly lovely.

MawtheMerrier Tue 10-Jan-23 08:11:16

Grannybags

My DH proposed in bed after sex! We were 'living in sin' as it was called back then. Never had a engagement ring and my wedding ring was £8 from Portobello Road.

Last year we celebrated 50 years!

Well, well Grannybags my engagement ring also came from Portobello Road -a band of 5 opals, costing all of £14 (there’s posh) in 1969.
I won’t comment on where he proposed but it was the person not the proposal which counted!

Witzend Tue 10-Jan-23 08:33:48

I had 3, none of them what I’d call romantic!
One was by letter, and it was never on the cards.

One was from a chap I thought I was fairly casually dating when future dh was working abroad, who said more than once ‘I will marry you.’
Friends told me I’d better watch out or one day I’d wake up married to him, but it was never going to happen.

Even dh’s wasn’t a bit romantic. He was due any day to return to his job in the Gulf and there was no way the country would give me the then required No Objection Certificate if we weren’t married. I suspect that the (at the time) pretty dire food in the bachelors’ mess was another reason!

No ring, he thought ‘getting engaged’ was desperately uncool, he just said the word and we set a date.

He did give me a lovely ring right after the birth of dd2, though, which meant a great deal more to me.
50 years next year! He’s not a bad old bugger really.

notgran Tue 10-Jan-23 08:55:22

On our second date I was proposed to. My heart said yes but my sensible head told my brain it was too soon. I said, ask me again in 6 months. Six months later, on holiday in Scotland, we made arrangements for our wedding for six months later and have been married now for 43 years (this year). He has always been much more romantic than me but I have always loved that about him. What a lovely thread, thank you Yammy

GrannySomerset Tue 10-Jan-23 09:07:35

I don’t remember a proposal; it was just clear quite quickly that the relationship was either serious or over. Despite being so young (19) I knew a good thing when I saw it and we were married when I was 20 and had nearly 60 years together. I miss him more than I can say.

Romola Tue 10-Jan-23 11:42:31

Me too Granny Somerset. Almost an exact mirror of yours. But lucky us, eh?

BigBertha1 Tue 10-Jan-23 12:41:57

The first husband I don't remember him proposing at all I think Mother just assumed we were getting engaged at Xmas and it all took off from there. I was 19 it only lasted 6 years - demon drink him not me,

Second one was in bed- 'I think we should get married' he said- 44 years next Friday.

But I did have another one about 30 years ago ' Marry me' he said after his wife had fled. He meant it too.

GagaJo Tue 10-Jan-23 12:54:49

Four times. Only one was romantic and that wedding never happened.

I'm really not the marrying type despite having been married once (never again).

annsixty Tue 10-Jan-23 13:01:28

I met my late H while I was still at school.
Never had another relationship.
After a couple of years it was just assumed we would marry one day so no proposal.
My mother made it clear she would not let me marry before I was 21 so we married when I was 21 and 3 weeks old, he was 22.
We were married for nearly 61 years when he died.

Hetty58 Tue 10-Jan-23 13:05:56

Two unromantic ones:

1 'I'll get a shorter sentence if we're married'

2 'I'll get married tax allowance if we're married'

(accepted both, great fun!)

Tizliz Tue 10-Jan-23 13:21:14

“I suppose we had better get married” I was pregnant. Still married 52 years later and he hasn’t got any more romantic.

AussieGran59 Tue 10-Jan-23 23:13:39

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Callistemon21 Tue 10-Jan-23 23:18:14

The third - not a very romantic proposal. But we're still here

He said "if we get married before I go away, we'll get a married quarter"
😄

Grammaretto Wed 11-Jan-23 00:02:25

I was just 16. He lived in a prefab in Brixton. He was such a sweet boy but my mother did not approve. She sent me to boarding school to get away and in time I stopped writing to him.

I met DH when I was 20 he 23. About 6 weeks after we met he asked me if I'd like to be married in Scotland at Easter which was 6 weeks away. (He was Scottish but we were living in Kent)
I said yes. We had to organise a wedding very quickly and both our families assumed I must be pregnant. I wasn't!
We were married for 51 years until he died in 2020. I was very lucky.

Rosie51 Wed 11-Jan-23 00:33:29

Just 6 weeks to the day after we met. I said yes. Still together after 4 children and many years. My soul mate, who I could strangle on occasion, who can drive me mad, but without whom I'd be lost, who knows me better than any other living person, who loves me more than even my own mother loved me. I am blessed.

AussieGran59 Wed 11-Jan-23 02:58:32

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Roddi3363 Wed 11-Jan-23 11:10:27

My husband proposed to me on one knee on a boat on the Pearl River in China. China was just beginning to open up and we were a couple of only a few tourists so he caused quite a stir as none of the other folk on the boat understood what was happening! We then chose an engagement ring and each stone in Hong Kong.

EMMYPEMMY Wed 11-Jan-23 11:11:59

I've been engaged 3 x times
I get scared and run when the weddings were discussed
Proposed to taken out for a meal
Proposed to with flowers and balloons
Proposed to on a drunken night out

Sago Wed 11-Jan-23 11:18:27

Yammy put out of our misery!
Which one?

frenchie Wed 11-Jan-23 11:19:18

Like TISLY he sat on the bed (I was in shock from being pregnant and had gone to bed) and said we’d better get married. We were nineteen and we’ll be celebrating 47 years of mostly wedded bliss!

Sue65 Wed 11-Jan-23 11:21:01

I think surprise proposals are just daft
Surely it should be a discussion rather than a surprise question
You wouldn’t buy a house on a surprise question
Then maybe a romantic proposal when both parties are sure it’s the right decision

GagaJo Wed 11-Jan-23 11:27:41

EMMYPEMMY

I've been engaged 3 x times
I get scared and run when the weddings were discussed
Proposed to taken out for a meal
Proposed to with flowers and balloons
Proposed to on a drunken night out

Me too! For one of the proposals, I hid in the bathroom and wouldn't come out.