BlueBelle, please reads posts, all I have said was talking of first love when one was a divorcee was tactless , a poor choice of words, I doubt many marry their first love and I doubt people enter a loveless marriage , not counting marrying for money ?. I would say the same if she had been a widow. He got hysterical and he’s a bishop, when I trained to be a lay preacher it was stressed one must consider every word . I expected a bishop to be able to give an address without such a clanger . Neither was talking of poverty suitable. Seems his arm flapping and hysteria attracted those who didn’t really care what he said, one does not talk of children being hungry at a marriage service. Well he does ?