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cliques in churches

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red1 Sat 03-Sep-22 15:51:26

I,ve been aware for too long the backbiting etc that goes on in parish churches.I used to bury my head and try and be pleasant to all,even the vicar! Over the past year ,ive found myself drawn into gossip, which i feel really bad about, so much so that ive decided to leave christianity for good. someone reminded me recently ,'lots of peple go to church, but there aint many christians there' I guess that ive been naive to think that people can behave like christians while in church,even just for an hour a week.It does sadden me ,but i'm going onwards with a faith in myself and also a vague sense in goodness both within and without, thanks for reading my rant!

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OnwardandUpward Sat 10-Dec-22 12:12:55

Probably true about the organisational thing. I mean, they probably have to be organised because there are overheads to pay, boxes to be ticked etc.

We are still pretty much attending online church. Having had a few overbearing but well meaning people try to control my life and give me advice that was not in the bible, I avoid being in that situation. I think if a pastor or church minister tells you what to do, it should at least be backed up by scripture. If it's really not, then it's a warning sign that they just want to control you.

Having lived with overbearing parents who still want to control everything I do (and I resist it), the last thing I want to do is go to a church where I am controlled. People have free will. Even God knows that and designed us that way. Nothing should be forced. I have faith and my faith dictates that I don't have to be controlled, by anyone.

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Uninvitedme Sat 10-Dec-22 12:21:45

I go to a United Reformed Church, and they are my second family. Wonderful people, you get help from them whenever you need it which I offered do, yes a real family. No backbiting I’ve never had one of them in the 10 years that I’ve been going to that church say a bad word about anybody.

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