I have sadly had to give up trying to persuade my husband to go abroad or indeed to do anything other than stay in a self catering cottage, which I have to choose to fit his health requirements.
So I have to ensure sufficient headroom so he can sleep sitting up, a good high backed chair, all on one level, or proper stairs( not spiral or open tread), level access to the loo in the night and so on.
Then I try to find somewhere where I can walk to the shops or beach myself, as he only likes to be out between 10 and 4. I hate being somewhere too remote.
He might agree to eat out a couple of times but mostly I have to cook.
We make the best of it, and have been to some lovely places, but it is hard to plan and somewhat restricting. But if I don’t get it right for him, the holiday is ruined.
Sometimes it does seem selfish, but .....
One of these days I will go away on my own as I have nobody else to go with, but I feel daunted at arranging it.