Is anyone awake to hand hold through a hard time?

You are in my thoughts ting I do hope you are not alone. Love and hugs.

Just popped back for an update and I'm sorry to find that things deteriorated to such a degree. Hugs for being brave when he was being so aggressive, and how very caring to hold him until he calmed down.

You must be exhausted with it all and need thinking time now to make a plan. There comes a time when a single person cannot provide all the care needed, so don't be afraid to reach out and ask for help.

A virtual bouquet for a very brave lady.

I just popped by in the hope that your situation has improved. I wish you peace at Christmas.

Thank you. I have another thread where I have explained that although the infection has cleared up, DH is still very confused, having some hallucinations, and is quite agitated. He is still in hospital, and we are waiting for a space in a nursing home for permanent residential care to be NHS funded due to his challenging behaviour. Looks like we will have to wait until after Christmas now, as the homes are all full due to people having respite care over the holidays. I am sure it is the right decision for both of us, but I am experiencing a mixture of guilt and grief, tempered by relief. I am looking forward to him being settled in his new home, and taking a holiday.

Tingaloo big ((((hugs)))) I think it is time to look after and protect yourself here. That is not you failing as a carer, it is so you can keep strong enough to keep visiting him while you can.

Ting I have been off GN for a while and just picked up your thread. My heart goes out to you in this sad situation. It seems that the best solution for both your DH and you is permanent care. One person can not deal with this alone so you don't need to feel guilty about getting much needed support, especially when violence is involved.

Bless you and your DH, especially at this time.

((Hugs))

Tingaloo I am so sad for you but also full of admiration for all that you have done and are doing. I hope you manage to get a holiday very soon.

Wishing you well, tingaloo x

A very happy Christmas to everyone who has been on this thread and supported me through a difficult time. All Dh's assessments for nursing care have been completed now, and we are waiting for a placement. He may have to go somewhere as a stopgap until a space at the nursing home of my choice becomes vacant. He has been given meds to calm him down at night, and seems settled. However, he is really confused, and doesn't realise he is in hospital. I am visiting one of my daughters for Christmas breakfast, then spending the day with dh at the hospital. In the evening I am picking my other daughter and her family up from her in-laws and driving them home so I will have an opportunity to spend time with them. I have been in contact with an old and very dear friend, with whom contact had lapsed for a few years. Talking to her, it felt like we had spoken yesterday, and she is coming to visit in the new year. I am so excited about that.
Thank you all again for your hand-holding, advice and support, and enjoy your Christmasses, however you spend them.

Good morning tingaloo. Your post comes across as very optimistic. How lovely you will catching up with a dear friend today. I hope that goes well, being able to talk warm thoughts about your past will be an (albeit) temporary welcome break from all the 'stuff' that's going on at the moment. I, for one wish the very best of days for you - and your DH.

hope day goes well and best wishes for 2016

tingaloo I hope this is a good day for you and your husband and that placement comes through very soon.

I can only echo the avalanche of good wishes to you from all of the GNers! I hope you have as good a day as possible. Its good to hear that you have some positive things to look forward to in the new year. Bless you.