left with an elderly aunt I don't know

Didn't really want to bring this up to the top again but just wanted to say thank to eveyone for their advice and to say my aunt is tomorrow going to a very nice nursing home a few miles down the road from us and she will stay there as there is no prospect of her being able to live in her flat again. I am sure the care there is good as have had good reports from people I know - feel I have done the best I can for her. Reading different posts on these forums has made me realise how very lucky I am and my heart goes out to all of you who have sick partners or family members or those who can't see gc for whatever reason - I hope these lovely ladies give you as much of a lift as they have given me and am looking forward to being a regular "pest" I mean poster on the boards many thanks and enormous hugs to all grans everywhere

So glad it's sorted out, and that your burden is lightened. You've definitely done the best for her and you. x

Nanarosie, so glad that you have managed to sort this difficult situation out, its so nice when someone has some good news to share.

Nanarosie you must be so relieved to have this situation resolved. As we get older life seems to be getting more and more stressful instead of the gentle retirement we were hoping for. I don't want my children to have this worry as well as all the other problems they are going to inherit! I want to die in my sleep before it gets messy!

I'm glad that this situation has been resolved so well nanarosie, it must be a great relief to you.

After all the problems are finally sorted, make sure that you get your family to treat you, a day of pampering or a weekend away. As they say, you deserve it.

Glad that this is resloved now, and it shows that Gransnet is a good place for us 'oldies' to share. We are also called 'the sandwich generation' aren't we? with 'very oldies', GC and DDs and DSs to look to. Hey Ho.