My daughter has disowned us.

Dear mugnanny you posted so I presume that the pain has resurfaced. I really can't give you any advice that hasn't all ready been given. My condolences to you on the the loss of you sister. it must be so hard dealing with the terrible grief. I don't think the pain of loosing contact with your daughter will ever go away. How could it, but I think you may be able to learn to live with it on some level. For now your dealing with two heartaches and grieving twice over. Give yourself time. Do nothing. Don't be tempted to send any e-mails just leave things for now until your mind is more settled and that may take some time. Grief has to be worked through. For a while yet your emotions will be all over the place, sad, angry, overwhelmed. Perhaps it's your estranged daughters turn to wait..and...wait and ...wait. and a (((((((hug)))))))

I think you're right, Kiora. The time has to come when it may just dawn those that have withdrawn from us, that we are getting on with our lives. Our doors will always be open to them. mugnanny's loss of her sister might just have nudged her DD into making the move to end the estrangement. It would have given her the chance to do so without 'losing face' so to speak.
I would think that the fact that she hadn't made the effort to give some sort of comfort to you, mugnanny, has hurt you twice-fold and terribly. Be kind to yourself. You've done your very best. xx

mugnanny so sorry to hear about your dear sister. I think your last sentence is a very wise thought

On 2 April 2014 Nonu says that Mugnanny might have gone. Please note that Mugnanny had posted on 19 March which is only 2 weeks previous. I think we all feel Mugnanny's pain and my heart aches for her whether it be one year on, 3 years on... indefinite.

When it's something as despairing as this, it goes on for as long as it takes to heal. And unfortunately time doesn't really heal, but talking and listening do help. So, mugnanny, please remember that we're all here.

And you understand that despair I know Marelli for you too.

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Precisely, Anya!!