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bad language

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celebgran Thu 24-Jan-13 17:53:50

is it necessary to use 4 letter words on this forum?

I find it quite sad if that is the case. It looks so harsh in print.

We all swear more I think nowadays but still do not like it, expect I am old fashioned.

absent Thu 24-Jan-13 17:57:20

I haven't seen any posts with four-letter words, but presumably if someone is posting and using them, they think it's necessary.

nanapug Thu 24-Jan-13 18:00:38

I must confess it doesn't worry me as long as it isn't done in a threatening way, but I am a bit naughty with swearing myself. I put it down to being a Convent girl and a nurse ;) I must say I did laugh the other day when my DD (who is also a little bit of a potty mouth) and I were discussing naughty words with the GC and they couldn't think of one naughty word. It must all go over their heads, but we decided it was because the words were never used at them in anger, which I do hate.

Bags Thu 24-Jan-13 18:00:55

What four-letter words on gransnet? Where? Can't say I've noticed. Mind you, I don't read every thread.

I think some expressions that were 'rude' once upon a time have lost their bite nowadays so, for instance, people might put 'FFS' where previously they would have put 'for goodness' sake'.

Rudeness can bother me, but mere words can't. One can use very 'polite' words and expressions in a rude way.

MiceElf Thu 24-Jan-13 18:03:33

I haven't noticed any, but then, I'm not easily shocked.

merlotgran Thu 24-Jan-13 18:06:04

They rarely appear on Gransnet. Doesn't bother me anyway.

JessM Thu 24-Jan-13 18:06:07

I wrote "damn" yesterday. I hope that does not count! grin
But yes someone did lose it the other day. Right from the off there has been a general consensus to keep GN fairly swearing free. This is because swear words offend many GN members. So it is a kind of "grandparents agreement", rarely breached.

whenim64 Thu 24-Jan-13 18:09:27

Ive seen the offending word on the odd thread and as it was being used for emphasis, it made me chuckle. I don't swear in front of children, but there's a lot of effing and blinding going on when I watch politics and current affairs programmes. It depends on how it is used.

janeainsworth Thu 24-Jan-13 18:25:48

I have only seen the abbreviated version and then it has been used to express exasperation, which is fine with me, as long as it's not personally directed at a particular poster.

harrigran Thu 24-Jan-13 18:26:37

Yes I have noticed and I do know who it was. I have never used THE rude word ever in any conversation with anyone but I have noticed DS use it and it makes me cringe. I know a lot of women who use it out of exasperation and to stress a point but I really do not think it is necessary, the dictionary is full of other words.

Elegran Thu 24-Jan-13 18:36:33

I once used the word in a post which was explaining its history, and how at one time it was the standard word for the activity it described, used by everyone from royalty to nuns to ploughmen.

Some people were offended by that, so my attempt to de-demonise the word when used seriously and not as a curse did not succeed.

Nonu Thu 24-Jan-13 19:00:47

I think the "f" word is highly malevolent .


Elegran Thu 24-Jan-13 19:17:15

It has been made so by being used as a swearword - in the middle ages it just meant copulate.

Tegan Thu 24-Jan-13 19:21:29

I'm afraid I swear like a trooper but I wouldn't swear on here apart from the occasional bloomin' [which Father Christmas says in the Raymond Briggs books so I sort of assume thats' ok].

JessM Thu 24-Jan-13 19:23:55

Yes tegan me too - on both counts.

Bags Thu 24-Jan-13 19:27:45

Sometimes, a good ole swearing blast is just what's needed to release tension. Read an article recently that maintained people who express their anger (shouting, swearing, but no untoward violence against others) are healthier than people who don't, or at least healthier than people who bottle things up rather than having a good ole shout.

j07 Thu 24-Jan-13 19:30:07

If you might be referring to: " j07 Tue 22-Jan-13 19:23:29

Stop bloody insulting me! angry

Totally fucked off now.


on re-reading it, I think it was a great post! smile

absent Thu 24-Jan-13 19:31:37

It's not really an issue on Gransnet is it? Mumsnet, on the other hand, is a different kettle of f***.

glassortwo Thu 24-Jan-13 19:32:12

I must admit to using FFS the day I found out Crimson had left shock I dont usually but I felt it was all that was left to say about the whole situation.... so my apologies if I offended anyone.

Ana Thu 24-Jan-13 19:37:05

It doesn't happen enough to make it an issue, surely? confused

Bags Thu 24-Jan-13 19:37:47

jings, I enjoyed those comments you made earlier. You were bang on target. Keep up the good work. smile

Bags Thu 24-Jan-13 19:38:51

Stop apologising when people TAKE offence at some silly little thing that they ought to be able to cope with!

Grannyknot Thu 24-Jan-13 19:39:17

Me too (don't really swear and wouldn't on here).

In the office where I work many of the women eff and blind from morning till night, but the men don't! QI.

Also, I'm fascinated to learn that the eff word "... at one time it was the standard word for the activity it described, used by everyone from royalty to nuns to ploughmen". I never knew that, and I grumble when they use it in the historical dramas on telly, saying 'People didn't speak like that back then'. But, come to think of it, it is still used incorrectly in those dramas then, because it is often used in the 'modern' sense rather than as described above.

I agree with you harri I mostly find it jarring.

Bags Thu 24-Jan-13 19:39:24

It is not offensive to say FFS out of irritating at silliness.

Tegan Thu 24-Jan-13 19:40:19

Thought it was bloomin' appropriate at the time glass smile....